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How to Capture That Man of Your Dreams

Updated on May 18, 2013

So many women complain that they cannot find the man of their dreams. Life can be too short, most of the times too unpredictable. Is disheartening to see our ladies not being able to find that 'man' who could make their lives worth living on their own 'terms of endearment.'

We wanted to give them a hand from experience, and probably... hopefully, this hub will be of help them in the long run

What's is Wrong With MEN These Days?

More than ever the fight for the quality of men is at the highest stake. There seems to be lack of compatibility -- after a few days of meeting a potential guy. So, how a man like ourselves can help women? How can we see from both sides of the gaping bridge?

We have been around long enough to give some advice... at least for the ones that think that the hunt is a waste of time. So, what's wrong with men? There is nothing wrong, apparently. Both parties, males and females, have the same chances in life. The pressure can be unbearable and some just waiting for that miracle around that corner of your life.


Here are some tips that will help you in the long run:

If you get hold of a 'candidate,' go for it:

Match up yourself and do your homework

  • Do not expect that a software (matchmaker) will do wonders or miracles... and keeps telling you that your compatibility is pretty much perfect. Men and women are really unpredictable as life. But be positive to start with. The world is not going to end on December 21, or tomorrow. Just...


Do not force a man to like your ways; he will never change even for love. He will try, but that doesn't mean love is going to last forever. Real love comes naturally. He has changed and settled long time ago.

If you love to read, plan a visit to that book store and... while studying the warzone; get yourself the type of coffee that you can use as your shield and sword. -- If you love tea and he loves Mocha, this is not a good sign. But keep checking the perspective.

On the other side, if you love e-books, join a club. Some have chat lines while you do a review online. Let more chances grow on its own.

If you love pets, meet at that park and introduce yourselves (mentally) and your extended family -- If you brought your cat along with no further warning, see those males' reactions; are they allergic to your cute kitten? Just see if that is a social magnetism

If you love texting, take a time an introduce your own 'texting language.' Share your FB games, meanwhile see if they really pays attention to your games and messages -- most men will show interest mixing pics, hellos and warming byes.

Our veterans that came back from overseas need longer days and lots of understanding. If you are willing to commit with them, you are on mined territory. The reason is simple: war trains them to be ballistic, offensive and practically unreachable, and love, real love, is not on the calendar as young women might expect. They need lots of love, but expect hard days after they get that detox...!

If you love mass, because your dad was a deacon at that Presbyterian church down your street, and you find out that your prospective 'knight in shining armor' was an atheist, then you will have to go against the tide.

Women weigh in physical qualities against their psyche. Believe it or not, a simple voice can make women change their minds; hormones and genes play an important role in the game of love. That's why we see that opposites, most of the time, really attract. Body language and that mental, "I chose you," makes the final decision. Even if we men haven't been warned.

Do you want this man?
Do you want this man? | Source

So, let's get things clear in here. How can you catch a good party?

  • Play the game and play stupid. Yeah! You have done it after a girl to girl talking. We men love to be in charge, apparently.
  • Listen to them. They will listen back as a human reaction.
  • Keep matching zodiacal signs, movies, music... and the rules of hidden body language .
  • Do not force yourself. Match your expectations against your stakes.
  • A bad sign, giving up sex too soon!
  • Do not call them more than 3 times after that first day.
  • Do you still want him? Learn his weak points and join the enemy -- research his Football game scheduling. Maybe golfing or fishing down the road.
  • Keep studying his ways. A man can say so many things in 2 weeks.
  • If he is not interested, then move on. You cannot make this male love you for real...the way you really deserve it!

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago


    Thanks for stopping by and leaving an engaging and powerful comment. Much appreciated

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

    An insightful hub! You are right about ignoring the software - I have heard that many rely on online sites for compatibility and all. Yes, life is unpredictable for both men and women. It is up to women to figure out their suitable man, using their rational thinking and practicality. You voiced your views very well in this engaging hub! Well-done!

    Thanks for SHARING. Interesting. Voted up.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi Uzma Shaheen,

    I guess the same rules apply here and there. Men can be something else, and actually we have been on those 'locker rooms' and took time to listen to their BS.

    The hunt is really global and if things do not change, we will have to borrow from those semihuman droids from a science fiction script. Amazing but possible.


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    Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 6 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

    very practical tips you gave,only a man can tell how to catch a man, were very right when you said,"•If he is not interested, then move on. You cannot make this mother ## to love you!"

    voting up and sharing.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Thanks Anamika,

    Your opinion is EXTREMELY valuable for us. Coming from a person that writes about relationships and similar topics. Thanks for stopping by and keep up the good work as well.


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    Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    You have made some awesome points Lord. I don't think a woman should settle for anything less that what she deserves. From my personal experience, I have always been attracted to those who were exactly opposite to me. Guys with the same interests as mine never became more than just friends. Voted up and tweeted.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Cardisa, sweetheart! You always cracking us all up. Pets can be welcome anywhere, but if the other party is allergic to one of those little animals, that can actually make a relationship lose its momentum. Thanks as usual! Take care!

    @ Faith Reaper!! Lol! Was that a momma worried about her precious thing, not meeting the right guy? Thanks for the compliment, and I wish I could recommend a guy for her, but I don't seem to see anyone around. Will let you know if I notice one. Thanks!

    @Tammy! you are a bad girl! How could yo say things like that? Lol! I guess you were joking... as we do with you. This was so funny! Oh, la la la!

    @Mary615, Lol! thanks for joining us! And you made me laugh too. I cannot recommend or set blind dates. We don't want to change HP to 'Ask Pete' Lol! Was just kidding team!

    @ Hi Rahul, you are the first guy to take the plunge, head down!! We hear you pal! But as we said, all relationships are unique and compatibility is a great issue for discussion. I understand you perfectly man! We guys are on the same sistuation, but on the other side of that artificial net of understanding. Thanks for your honesty and your valuable words.

    @ Wonderful1, Ha ha ha! Is this hub attracting romance, besides advice and a down to earth commenting? Faith? Would you help my friend Sheila with this question? This was fun!

    @MarcouJor, You got the message indeed. Little women learn at an early age, how to be subtly manipulative, in the sweet sense of the word. And playing that little game would not hurt anyone. Thanks! For your support!

    @Ardie, Wow! Seems that you are on the same page as us. We should open an advising and counseling site. Still love your Ask Ardie Column! Hilarious!

    @You are very welcome Injured Lamb! You have pointed out a quintassential paragraph. Sometimes we can add this one: Love and true, will set you free!


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    Injured lamb 6 years ago

    I love this...don't force yourself...thanks for the sharing lord, be blessed...

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    Sondra 6 years ago from Neverland

    Fun Lord and yet so very honest and true. Dont force love and dont expect it to change either! There's something to be said for letting love blossom over time from friendship into something more.

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    Maria Jordan 6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Oh LORD,

    I gonna have to agree with you on all your strategies, especially the last one!

    I learned a few years into the game that "acting stupid can mean quite the opposite'.

    Thanks for caring about us gals so much! UP & FA, mar.

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    Sheila Varga Szabo 6 years ago from Southern California

    I might add that I'm not the type to pester men (I only respond to their messages).

    And I'd like to know, Faith Reaper, is said 6'2", good-looking son single at the moment????

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    Jessee R 6 years ago from Gurgaon, India

    We men I believe are sometimes misunderstood... I say! Give us a fair chance to show the love we can give and then we will make DREAMS come true.

    Fabulous points up here! Women should not panic... they should be patience,... patience is rewarding! :)

    Amazing hub!

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    Mary Hyatt 6 years ago from Florida

    Oh, well, it's too late for me, I'm afraid. I don't think you are available, darn it! You are such a romantic, sensitive guy. Do you have a brother like yourself that might like an old gal like me? Great Hub, by the way. I love your choice of photos, too.

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    Tammy 6 years ago from North Carolina

    Oh la, la... a blossoming romance here on hub pages. :) Did you really write "play dumb..???" Hmmm... Very interesting tips on how to catch a man. These seem to be from the very primal levels of human behavior. You may be on to something here. Very interesting.

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    Faith Reaper 6 years ago

    Are there any more out there like you for my 28 year old daughter? I'm going to get her to read this hub! You are just so honest and brilliant at the same time. I do remember my son, who is 6'2" and very handsome, and all the girls loved him to death, but the one's who did NOT call him every second of every day, they were the one's who caught his eye. You are very wise to point that out to women. My son would get so aggravated at the girls who constantly called him, he could just stop talking to them altogether. Excellent piece of work here!

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    Carolee Samuda 6 years ago from Jamaica

    Okay Lord, should I give up or shouldn't I? I know I can't make you love me but dang you aren't budging man....what should my next move you love animals?

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi there Lathing!

    So glad you found the love of your life. Your story is so touching... seems that we men need to feel what women really feel in order to... truly commit. So far our own race is preserved for posterity. But just thinking, a 100 years span can bring down our existence if we never ever believe in Love and family again.


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    LaThing 6 years ago from From a World Within, USA

    lol, great article, great lines, enjoyed it very much! I have a wonderful man..... Don't tell him that!! I thank God for bringing him my way. If I was to describe our meeting with a song, I would say it's, "I wasn't looking, but somehow you found me...." :)

    Always love reading your such diversified hubs. Thanks, and awesome!

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Lol! Damn memory of mine! Is not always good to have a memory of things! Or maybe yeah!?

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    Sheila Varga Szabo 6 years ago from Southern California

    :) I knew it. :)

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Lol! Sheila! You also made me smile. I was having in mind one of your past experiences... before "quiting the dating game."

    The next JK Rowling? So I might play one of those true story ghosts? Say hi to your daughter, and she is lucky to have a wonderful mom.


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    Sheila Varga Szabo 6 years ago from Southern California

    "Sheila? Do not call them more than 3 times after that first day. Thanks Pembleton!"

    ~ Gee, I don't know, but I could have sworn I was mentioned in this....

    I love you lord: keep writing your inspirational pieces, and I'll keep reading.

    By the way, my 17 year old daughter reminded me today, that perhaps I'm bound to be the next JK Rowling. You know what? I think it's time I lived up to my expectations of myself.