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Single Motherhood and Dating: Part 6 The Final

Updated on May 5, 2016

Last in Series

This is the last of my Single Motherhood and Dating Series and I thank all who followed me on this. I hope my experiences and tips were helpful and perhaps reached someone that needed that extra “its okay.” While I have not found my Mr. Right yet I am also okay if I don’t ever. I would like to have a man? Yes of course, but I do not NEED a man? No, no I do not for me and my son have been doing fine on our own and to have a man intrude on us…well we just might eat him alive and toss out the bones. We got our own little world and we like it very much here. This has also been a learning experience too and I think dating does that to you, or maybe it’s just with age comes wisdom. I have realized that saying we need to love ourselves first before we can others is kind of true. My last attempt at a relationship crumbled before it even really started and I was no fool and I saw quickly my future if I stayed in the relationship and it was not pretty and I did not want that for myself and I got away. Sadly…is it sadly? Either way the short relationship blessed me with my beautiful little boy. So being a new mom I devoted myself to that closing myself off hiding under gained weight to make myself less appealing. I banned myself from men and dating. I allowed myself to heal. When I finally healed and wanted to start to open up again it was a slow scary process and I wanted to make sure I did things right this time. I was a mom now. If I did not want a repeat of past failed relationship I knew I had to figure out what I wanted. I then would have to stick myself to it and not settle for anything less. I have come to realize I am fine on my own and I do not need a man to make my life complete. I knew God made woman for Adam for he was lonely not as a necessity. Adam was fine without his Eve he was just lonely for company. I see so many women have this idea like they have to have a boyfriend or their life is not complete. They get out of one relationship then a few weeks later they are all in love with this new guy, then that relationship fails. They cry and wonder why their relationships never work, they hate men, and self loathing then usually kicks in. No one really wants to take the deep look inside them and realized how wrong they have been. Not many really have the strength then to change it or embrace it. I know there is somethings that I cannot change about me so I just embrace it. No longer is it an evil sin to me, it is just me.

 What a Woman Wants

In getting back into dating and relationships again and not wanting to repeat past transgressions I actually asked myself what do I want in a guy? I never really have a set standard I just kind of went with the flow on my feelings and instincts. So I realize perhaps that was a bit of a faulty method. I also got tired of getting the types I did not want. I have realized I do want a guy that uses at least 50% of his brain and is able to make decisions on his own. I am all for equal rights, but I do kind like a guy that can take charge. Especially if you just met me and would like to take me out to dinner and they leave it up to me where to go. You asked me out you pick! It can't be that hard to do some research! Aren’t you trying to woo me Mister? The proper way is you ask a girl what type of food she likes and so that gives you a heads up. If you are from out of town familiarize yourself with the town she lives in for a place to dine, it can’t be that hard.

 Taking It Slow

While I have only gone on two dates so far…well there was that meeting for coffee so is that 3? Never reached a second date with any of them though perhaps the coffee meet could happen again I’m not sure. I leave it up to the guy for I am fine either way. So let’s recapped what we have learned.

  • Set rules for yourself. You have new priorities now.
  • Take things slow and no need to introduce your dates to your child right away and have the new guy be instant part of the family. Wait a bit and make sure he is the one before you introduce them to your kids.
  • Casually date, but with serious intent. Do not go husband /daddy hunting. Be causal but always open for something more.
  • Decided what type of guy you want to date single dad or single guy with no kids

 

In conclusion I once attended a wedding where the bride was 70 and the groom was in his 80’s. Goes to show it’s never too late for love. Happy Mother's day to all the Mom's!

Missed parts 1-5? Read them here

Single Motherhood and Dating part 1

Single Motherhood and Dating part 2

Single Motherhood and Dating part 3

Single Motherhood and Dating part 4

Single Motherhood and Dating part 5

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