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You Can Choose To Love

Updated on December 26, 2010

Some feel they don’t know how to love or feel they can’t love someone the way they may want to be loved. However, you can choose to love. We all have that emotion inside. It’s what we choose to do with it that matters in the end.

There are people that have been hurt so badly they feel they can never open that emotion to another person that is so untrue. Your course you decide in life is truly in your own hands. Even those who may have hurt you cannot take or make someone else not love you. That is totally up to you. There are those that say they choose to remain alone. Think of the most precious person to you; you can sit and talk with them, laugh with them and share those secrets with them. Everyone has someone they truly trust. Think of that person suddenly being taken from you would you want to spend the rest of your life alone? We are made to want love and to want to give love. Why would one choose to deny themselves of this precious emotion?

You have to know yourself and know what you want and what you won’t tolerate. When you meet someone that has those qualities you won’t tolerate, stay away. As though nothing is ever perfect, there is going to be someone willing to learn to give you that secure inner feeling. People say, “I don’t have it in me anymore.” That also is a choice. You actually scare your own self out of giving or receiving love. People fall out of love because they stop trying to love. They give up because of past resentment or past baggage. When will you let go? When will you give “YOU” another chance? Think again of that feeling, those late night chats, a hug, a smile or a gentle touch, you can choose to love or you can choose not to.

An older woman in her nineties once said, if she could do it all over again, she would of laughed more, talked more, took life less serious, took less medicine, spent more time with friends, walked with no shoes on, strolled along more rather than always rush along. How profound! Time goes by so fast and you can’t get it back. Choose to love, you can do it. Don’t wait until you are up in age then reflect back on all the time you wasted not being happy. If you already have a mate and the love is dying, take time to rekindle. Love is an emotion everyone should take time for. Everyone should try and find. You can choose to love.



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    • azure_sky profile image

      azure_sky 7 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

      More words of wisdom!! Thanks again for giving us something to think about ILTW94....Another one of your pieces that I will take to heart! Glad I found you!

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      acaetnna 7 years ago from Guildford

      Love is a truly wonderful emotion and in my opinion everyone should experience this amazing feeling. A great article Ilovetowrite.