I find it hard to make friends. What do I do?

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   ubanichijiokeposted 12 years ago

   I find it hard to make friends. What do I do?
   
   

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   premsinghposted 12 years ago

   Do not have any expectations from your friends
   Behave in the same way as you expect from them,
   Do not try to make them your slave by asking them to choose friends of your choice,
   Do not ask your friends to ignore someone you dislike,
   I hope that these guidelines will help you make more friends,
   Read further for more information  http://hubpages.com/hub/goodfriends,
   http://hubpages.com/hub/Managerelationshipcontrol,

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   Hailsaleposted 12 years ago

   It may be benificial to look within yourself and discover the underlying reasons that relationships dont happen or work out. This does by no means make the problem your fault but it may assist in figuring out what is. Good luck

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   Hublogposted 12 years ago

   You can start by wearing a good shirt...

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   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   lets start with arogance. obviously from your pic, you have it.

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   ritazrubyposted 12 years ago

   where do u go to? what interests do u have? do u smile often? or r u shy? u really ought to look at these issues. it would help. good luck
   dearie, please wear your shirt? lol

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   Dave Mathewsposted 12 years ago

   Don't make any enemies, especially without friends.

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   ubanichijiokeposted 12 years ago

   Well, i have been the shy type for long. However, am trying to wear that out for sometime now. I hardly make friends cos when you like somebody and get close, some misuse the privilege. I hope to take all of the advise here starting with Premsingh, i cherish the good advice. Being natural, accommodating, behave in a good way etc
   also, your hub helped so much but there was no way to give my feedback. Thanks so much
   
   @hailsale, 'searching within myself' is what i am doing. I think i will figure out what step to take. Thanks big friend. Your kind answer was of great help!
   
   @hublog, lol. Thanks for the advice. I will not forget that in a hurry 'wear a shirt'. Thanks good friend
   
   @nightwork4, hmm i don't think i ve any trace of arrogance just that i do what i want whether it hurts somebody or not. I think that'z another weak point I must work on. Thanks for the emphasis. My regards to you good friend. I hope i make new better friends now i have passed through the university. I must say that am really benefitted.
   
   @ritazruby, your advice is noted. I must look into these issues. Am sure it will be of help. Thanks dear
   
   @Dave, well i think i have many haters back in college who would sacrifice the last pint of their blood to make me sad, unhappy & mad. I thank you for your advice. I must stick to them one at a time.
   
     @all, your valuable contribution have charmed my heart. Thanks y'all

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   Darknlovely3436posted 12 years ago

   first thing you do is to put on a shirt, if that is you in the photo

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    dixie28714posted 12 years ago

    you should be thankful!! Who wants to deal with people and their drama anyways? LOL

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    abrarrposted 12 years ago

    well the only thing i think you should do is to expect less and give more to others rather than expecting more and giving less.

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    thehemuposted 12 years ago

    its not about making friends, it is all about making good friend. what if you have 100s of friends and don't have any good friend to help you in your problem but what when you have only one friend always present for you,
    
    http://www.answersfm.com

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    LittlePaydayposted 12 years ago

    Always remember to be yourself people can tell when you pretend to be someone you're not - so don't pretend

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    Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years ago

    To make a friend you must be a friend.  Do what you would like others to do for you.  Show the kindness that you expect in others towards yourself.  I notice you are not smiling in the pic and you may have done that on purpose but smiling is a great way to break the ice and make friends.  You don't have to be the tough guy all the time.

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    edhanposted 12 years ago

    I do know that some people have the charms where there will be alot of friends.
    
    I always believe in being truthful in everything you do and soon you will discover when people get to know you, they will be friends.
    
    Feng Shui is also a great way to change a person's life in relationship with people. I do know of people who have their lives changed with Feng Shui. Some times there are alot of people who do not believe in such stuff but I always say that if Feng Shui can help to make the change, why not?

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    Dandraposted 12 years ago

    Don't worry about your abs - focus on your confidence and how you feel about yourself. It will come! And, nice abs!

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    Borsiaposted 12 years ago

    It is always easiest to make friends who have common interests so start by looking at places to meet people who share yours. Think about places you might go to meet those people. If you have hobbies think about taking a class or attending a lecture. Maybe volunteer for group activities. I am into special effects and related makeup so I work on haunted houses come september. (Note I said September, things like this are planned and built
    If you don't have any hobbies apply the same ideas to places you would like to go.
    Be friendly and open but never pushy and don't feel hurt if you are not invited into a circle of friends.
    The most important thing is to be relaxed and be yourself, don't try too hard.

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    Kaddamposted 12 years ago

    If you have a couple of friends already then its easy to just make new friends out of their friends. This comes easy to somebody like me.
    However, you sound like you are or were in the same boat as me. My problem is not having friends-I have friends-its making new friends.
    
    My problem is I don't like making opportunities-I like my alone time and keeping to myself. I'm willing to take opportunities if they come up, but in things like making friends-you gotta make them.
    
    1-start doing more activities you like to do
    2-do them at new locations instead of your usual hangs (my problem)
    3-start making -not waiting for- the opportunities to make new friends. Introduce yourself-communicate the usual (i.e. how your day is going, the weather) Then tell them why you're there (don't say "to make some friends.") - say "I like basketball, so I be here to watch the hoops" (inotherwords, the activity shared).
    4-right after this is all done immediately ask if they want to hang during the activity-this determines to you if they're up to making you their friend. If they say "Yeah" or "I'm with my fam/crew right now, but maybe later-you're a shoo in. However, if they say "my people" or "my friends (pals, buddies)" then they're jerks thinking you aren't proper material to hang.

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