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Could you stay with a mediocre lover? Suppose you are crazy about them, except for that one thing.


Suppose you loved everything about him or her, and even felt a deep attraction toward them, but the sex is mediocre or boring. Would you stick it out, go to therapy, or say "Forget it, the spark isn't happening." Keep in mind, you feel deeply for this person. I'm pretty sure I know what I would do, but I'm curious about how others view this dilemma.

 

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    Yves (savvydating) 3 years ago

    Hi Moonfroth. That's my feeling exactly, that bad sex "saps joy." I've always thought that intimacy is what happens all day long. Truly, it makes me sad to see the frazzled woman and unhappy man together, but uncommunicative.

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    Yves (savvydating) 3 years ago

    Lovely answer, duffsmom. Sexual intimacy is a strong form of communication. If things aren't going well, it can be difficult to talk about, but it may feel more natural if a couple can show caring throughout the day.

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    Yves (savvydating) 3 years ago

    Hi rose-the-planner. Thank you for the compliment!! Indeed, communication may resolve some sexual concerns, perhaps to the point where couples feel quite contented. Yet, I know someone who is still talking this thing out after 20+ years of marriage.


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    Yves (savvydating) 3 years ago

    dashingscorpio, I fully understand, and I do not judge the need for sexual fulfillment as shallow - far from it. Some people have higher libidos. Some have been with skilled lovers and, they especially might feel terribly unhappy re: incompatibility.