Why would anyone want to stay in an unhealthy relationship?
Sometimes you think the relationship will get better but each time your partner brings you down with their failed opportunities. How would you cope with such situations?
Generally speaking most decisions come down to one's perception of their available options and the "Cost" VS Rewards" to make changes.
If one's perception is that none of the available options will make them any happier then where they are now they'll try to endure and hope things will improve. More often than not there are some "good days" even in the worst of relationships. People learn to live for those few days of sunshine.
On the other hand some people look at all the effort that will be required of them to make a major change. For example if one is married they'll have to seek out a divorce attorney, file paperwork, and go through the process of separating things, make announcements to friends, family, co-workers. possibly move out of their home, and go through a period of re-adjusting to being single and go through the process of finding a new person who is compatible. Some simply choose loneliness.
This doesn't include the expenses one may incur if they have to pay alimony or child support. It's not uncommon for some people to decide that they'd rather (cheat) than jump through all those hoops and in other instances they simply decide the "cost" versus the "potential reward" of finding a better person is just too much so they resign themselves to staying.
Settling just means a person has decided based upon what would be required of them to make a change they'd rather stay.
I really do think that some people believe things will get better, even if the chance is slim to none, they want to be that 1% that makes it through with a rainbow at the end...
If the relationship is really unhealthy, chances are that even if anything does get better, there is still likely to be issues that will be difficult to deal with and live with.
There's no coping - just accepting it for whatever reasons. But to me, that's not a true relationship. That's extended sorrow...
I believe there are definitely things that we will learn from everyone who crosses our paths, whether it be positive or negative. We all know no one's perfect but watering dead grass wont revive it. You have to decide for yourself what you're willing to accept and what you won't. *And if there are children involved, the children's safety needs to be priority (physically and mentally.)*
This is why it's so important to have the Lord, to seek to build a relationship with the Lord - He'll guide you in all that you do and you'll know what the right decisions are.
One thing is certain: LOVE SHOULD NOT HURT.
God bless
Well, I suppose couples would rather stay together even if their relationship have gone sour because of their children, because they just could not be bothered to go thru a divorce due to costs, and maybe because they can still live together as a family even if they don't love each other anymore.
If you got children, it is hard to split up because you have to consider their needs of both parents but if you haven't got kids, I suppose it is easier to get a divorce if your relationship can't be mended. All I can say is that, this is not an easy situation to be in.
Sometimes it's easier to stay than it is to leave, especially in a long term marriage. Unless you are involved with someone else, why move out of a home that you have put as much hard work into as your spouse? Then you consider the fact that most relationships leave all the bill management duties up to one person. The other has not a clue how to handle anything on their own. Some couples are put in more distress when one of them should get sick and depend on their spouse to take care of their meds and doctor appointments for them. This should not excuse the mean and hurtful words used by the dependent spouse, but often times the spouse that is carrying the load is totally convinced they are needed there, no matter how trapped they feel. They know they are being used, but they see no way out. Each person must do what they are comfortable doing even if it brings hurt feelings.
A relationship will be unhealthy, if the partners don't have better understanding of each other. And misunderstandings will arise in between them, when they have to face hard situations. This may sometimes, break a relationship.
Interesting comment here. So true about unhealthy relationships. Some situations can be complicated and with proper understanding the relationship can improve. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
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