before a spouse &/or even his/her OWN children NOT TO EVEN contemplate marriage &/or parenthood? There are people who are EXTREMELY CLOSE to their family of origin. They're the type of people who will put their family of origin BEFORE their spouses & even their children.This leads to marital conflict,not to mention hatred of the spouse & child/children towards this person.The rule is when one gets married, the spouse & child/children takes PRECEDENCE over the family of origin.The family of origin SHOULDN'T be important as new ties are forged w/the spouse & child/children being MOST IMPORTANT.
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I agree with you Z; when my MIL got sick, hubby was so worried, I suggested she move in with us. She didn't, but we both felt it was the right offer. Our kids & each other are of course most important, but not completely at the expense of others.
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Not talking about one's children. I was speaking about people who put their grown siblings before their husband & children. Family of origin means the family one is born into.
It IS. When one is married, the spouse & child/children are FIRST. The original family isn't important any more. They can take care of themselves. One should concentrate on spouse & child/children, NOT ORIGINAL FAMILY.
I disagree with you.
When one gets married & be a parent, the original family doesn't & shouldn't count. Anyone who is extremely close to the original family SHOULD REMAIN single. No one is going to tolerate SUCH BEHAVIOR, spouses & children will HATE this
Disagree. There are of course extreme cases of people putting extended family before their own spouse/kids, and it's unhealthy. But there's nothing wrong with helping family members, or acts of kindness towards people in more serious need.
It IS. Forget about extended family, the needs of spouse & child/children are the ONLY needs that should be considered.That's why spouses hate such people. If one wants to be connected to extended family-STAY SINGLE,NOT MARRY NOR HAVE RELATIONSH
After 17 years, if I told my husband I have to cancel movie night because my 87 yr old mother needs to go to the hospital, he would not be mad at me. He'd drive me. & the kids. Cutting off/shutting out extended family/friends & community is a