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Why is it BEST for a person who puts his/her family of origin(parents &/or especially siblings)


before a spouse &/or even his/her OWN children NOT TO EVEN contemplate marriage &/or parenthood? There are people who are EXTREMELY CLOSE to their family of origin. They're the type of people who will put their family of origin BEFORE their spouses & even their children.This leads to marital conflict,not to mention hatred of the spouse & child/children towards this person.The rule is when one gets married, the spouse & child/children takes PRECEDENCE over the family of origin.The family of origin SHOULDN'T be important as new ties are forged w/the spouse & child/children being MOST IMPORTANT.

 

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Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon (phoenix2327) says

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    Mackenzie Sage Wright (WiccanSage) 9 months ago

    I agree with you Z; when my MIL got sick, hubby was so worried, I suggested she move in with us. She didn't, but we both felt it was the right offer. Our kids & each other are of course most important, but not completely at the expense of others.

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Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) says

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    Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) 7 months ago

    Not talking about one's children. I was speaking about people who put their grown siblings before their husband & children. Family of origin means the family one is born into.

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    Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) 9 months ago

    It IS. When one is married, the spouse & child/children are FIRST. The original family isn't important any more. They can take care of themselves. One should concentrate on spouse & child/children, NOT ORIGINAL FAMILY.


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