Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
If one is having one bad date or relationship experience after another it's probably time for them to reexamine their "mate selection/screening process". Never forget (you) said "yes"!
If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a "better shopper"!
Some people have never done any introspective thinking to figure out who (they) are let alone determine what it is they want and need in mate.
A lot of folks allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices. It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
You're responsible for having your own "must have" or dating criteria list! Only you know what you're looking for.
If you know what it is you want and you have the self-discipline to stick to it you're likely to see a reduction in the number of heartbreaks you experience.
Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart. Don't ignore "red flags".
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
Compatibility trumps compromise!
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde