What should I do if She says this when I say I like her?

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   shadowdriveposted 13 years ago

   What should I do if She says this when I say I like her?
   
   I told a girl today that I like her and at first she didn't say much about it although when I asked her how she felt about it later she said that she was unsure if she liked me as a friend or more than a friend that she needed to collect herself. What is she really trying to say? And what should I possibly do next if i want to try and win her over. Should I stay the course but not bring it up for awhile or just let it go? any advice is much thanked

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   Lisa M Smithposted 13 years ago

   If you really like her, then stay the course.  But, don't be pushy.  Just keep being you and see where it goes.  But, if she finally says that she just wants to be friends, then you have to respect that.  Sometimes people just need a little time to process that someone actually "likes" them.

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   Lilybettposted 13 years ago

   Hold out for her, until she continues to avoid the subject, it then becomes her loss if she changes her mind. But for now, see what she has to say she's entitled to think about it for a while..

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   stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

   I'd allow her the time she's asked for to 'collect herself' before she gives you an answer.  Trying to pressure her for a response won't help, just give her time to think it through. It sounds like she's being honest, she's not sure what her feelings are at this point in time.

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   Faeriephenomenonposted 13 years ago

   She's not interested and she didn't want to hurt your feelings. I know if I liked someone and they told me they liked me i'd be excited about it and I wouldn't need time to "collect myself" soo you should probably forget about her.

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   Jeff Cavallaroposted 13 years ago

   Sometimes the best offense is a strong defense. You had the courage to tell her how you feel. Now pull back a bit. If she is really in to you, she will find you. If not, move on.

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   Kelly347posted 13 years ago

   Be a friend, but back off a little bit.  Give her time to decide.  The last thing a girl will want in that situation is to feel pressured.  Good luck!

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   lovesleftoversposted 12 years ago

   Although your post was made 7 months ago, I felt compelled to answer this question with a personal story. Once upon a time I met a guy at work and we began dating. I'm certainly not the "love at first sight" type but something about this guy won my heart nearly right away. After a few weeks of his spending the night, hanging out on days off, going to movies, out to eat, etc. I impulsively blurted out the dreaded 'L' word. It fell flat and I felt like an absolute idiot. Not to mention the rejection I experienced. Ugh! This guy was leaving for a mini-vacation the next day so I told him I was uncomfortable seeing him any longer and that I was intending to move on. Well I guess he took his mini-vaca as an opportunity to do some soul searching. When he returned he contacted me, told me he loved me too, was scared a bit by my forwardness and wanted to continue the relationship. We've been married since last October. So, hang on and don't give up too fast. Perhaps this girl has been through some things that have made her a little gun shy and she just need time to digest things. Let her know you're there for her. Things have an uncanny way of working out the way they're supposed to. Best wishes!

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   Erin Rooneyposted 12 years ago

   It's best to treat women as if we are being honest, even if you doubt we are. It's different for every woman, but trying to win her over doesn't seem like the best idea. You shouldn't have to justify yourself or present some sort of value or purpose you might serve. If you do that, and she decides she likes you, you won't know if it's genuine or not. Just relax and do your own thing.

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