Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Some people would rather attempt to change the world than to change themselves. Ultimately we get to choose who we spend time with.
There will never be a time when society falls into a lockstep of kindness.
However everyone is entitled to have their own "must have" trait lists. Yes everyone deserves to be respected but (you can't control others). All one can do is (choose wisely) who they will spend time with.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." - Reinhold