Is there such a thing as growing away from love with one another in a marriage?

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  1. LifeNanny profile image60
    LifeNannyposted 9 years ago

    Is there such a thing as growing away from love with one another in a marriage?

  2. elayne001 profile image83
    elayne001posted 9 years ago

    This past five years have been interesting for us since our four children have left the nest. Before that, most of our efforts were put into supporting our children and seeing after their needs. My husband also had a job change which left him with much more free time. We started getting on each others nerves. We had to analyze our relationship and make goals together because we had made a commitment to stay together. We began gardening together which was quite fun, and also going to restaurants and new places we had not visited before. Our situation has improved and our love revived. You always have to work to keep the love strong.

  3. Buzzy profile image61
    Buzzyposted 9 years ago

    I have been married for 26 years, and have to admit that at different times, the whole "love" thing ...that special feeling that you get when you first fall in love kind of wains.  However, I believe too that love has many dimensions.   There are all kinds of love in a relationship.  It's the working at those kinds of love that make a marriage or a union.  Any relationship takes effort from both parties, and to me, if both people are working to the same end, the love only gets stronger...just feels different.

    I still get the flutters though, when my husband smiles at me, or compliments me on how I look.  Or just holding still makes my heart sing.

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    MysticLingerieposted 9 years ago

    Yes, love does tend to fade away as you stay together longer. The good thing is that as love fades away, you start to care for that person more. Old people dont always "love" each other, but they stay together because they have been together for so long that they cant see themselves living their lives without their partner whom they care so much about and has become a part of their lives. Relationships tend to have the yo-yo effect, meaning they go up and down. Arguments will happen, and they are necessary to build a strong relationship. If you ever find that love is fading away but you dont want to leave that person you can always try new things, act like if you were dating again. Just because you are married doesnt mean you cant go out on dates, or to fancy places. There is a reason why you go together with that person find that reason and bring it back usually that spark we call love will come back with it.

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    reeltaulkposted 9 years ago

    I believe there is.....The first question you need ask yourself is were you two truly in love to begin with.  If so, then it only calls for a little maintenance, and that I need not tell two people who are in love because love doesnt need any outside assistance.  Like nature it has a tendancy of working things out accordingly.  Just like any other relationship, if the base reason and purpose of your marriage is not founded on truth, honesty, loyalty, love....the list does go on.  In time it will crash due to an unstable and weak base.  Whats the point of getting into anything if it isnt grounded and firm.  It's only a matter of time before it crashes. 

    Vonda G. Nelson

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    LonelyHusbandposted 9 years ago

    I think so..I have been married for only two years and we have had sex on 8 times. I feel myself growing away from love and I don't like the way it makes me feel. I have lost interest in having sex with her, because I am tired of wanting it and being disappointed. I don't want to become one of those cheating husbands. We have talked about it, she is still attracted to me and I her; but she doesn't have the desire for sex. She was suppose to go to see what her hormone level is but she hasn't gone and that was 4 months ago that she was suppose to go. She feels that sex is not a big deal for the marriage, intimacy is. We are intimate, we hold each other and I carress her and reassure her of my love, but that's as far as it goes. We can be intimate and then nothing, no sex afterwards. We have foreplay but then no play. I am so frustrated and depressed because sex is important to me. Before we got married, she made me feel that sex was going to be an enjoyable and frequent part of our marriage. I didn't expect to be begging for sex within two years after getting married. She says that I am good at having sex and that when we do, she is very pleased and satisfied....(unless she is trying to make me feel good about myself).

  7. soniafernandez profile image70
    soniafernandezposted 7 years ago

    There is....I have seen it around me many a time and I believe that every relationship requires work to keep the flame burning..More love to you..blessed be


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