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How to find out if someone is married

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    HubPagesposted 8 years ago

    How to find out if someone is married

  2. ethel smith profile image80
    ethel smithposted 8 years ago

    In this life we often have to trust our instincts. We also often have to take people on trust. This can mean that, if we believe a person to be trustworthy, we have to take their word, on what they tell us. So having met Mr, or Mrs, Wonderful and decided that he, or she, is right for you, just how can you ascertain that this person is not already married? read more

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    SeXyCposted 8 years ago

    Google him/her. It's a great way to get info on someone you're interested in. There's a possibility that his/her name will be listed somewhere on Google's search results side by side with the significant other. Of course, it's also a good tool for figuring out other information about that person that may be relevant to you. If the search results are too broad, try putting quotes around the exact name, i.e. "John Smith" and type in their address if you know it or at the very least the city where they live.

    Happy hunting!

  4. tladd profile image54
    tladdposted 8 years ago

    Invstigate with a public records search. It's free

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    inconsistancy....whether a good liar or in a marriage or relationship.  whch ever one it is, it shows major red flags.  who wants to deal with much less be involved with a liar, as for someone that is married and wants to have his/her cake and eat it too.........go figure

    vonda G. nelson

  6. getting there profile image80
    getting thereposted 8 years ago

    Simply ask.
    You are much more likely to get the truth with a simple direct question, than by beating around the bush looking for signs and hoping the subject comes up. My ring finger for instance has no tan line or indentation from a ring, because I have not worn a ring for the lat ten years, even though I have been married both happily and at times unhappily, but always faithfully to the same person for the last 13 years. I also have friends who have worn rings even when they were not married, though usually while in a relationship or down on the dating scene.
    If you are not satisfied with the answer you get, then consider this: Most liars rarely tell a direct black and white lie, because it is too risky. A simple answer is most likely to be true. Liars prefer to rely on partial truths, deflection, and misleading statements. Beware if in answer to your question they dive into a long interactive story that never gets around to answering your question, but rather diverts onto another topic entirely. If this happens, don't forget your question, and ask it again. This shows that it is important to you, and that you are not easily manipulated. You may follow up with a question of why they didn't simply answer your question the first time, and if you're still interested, do some research.

  7. Mocha Momma profile image56
    Mocha Mommaposted 8 years ago

    If you even entertain dating a person, you should ask them if they are married outright before proceeding.  NEVER base someone's status on assumption, it can be a very messy situation, so ask first.  If they hem and haw about it, hesitate, or pause, then they aren't telling you something. 

    If they are "separated", it may not be a documented legal separation, and they should probably resolve that situation so that it's more permanent.  Essentially, the aren't with their spouse for the time being.  I have friends that are separated that are in relationship limbo because of this status.  There tends to be some unresolved feelings involved in this case. 

    For marriages and divorces, there is always a public record.  So if you want to confirm that someone truly is not married or if they still are, then you can access the public records.

  8. monicadublin profile image53
    monicadublinposted 8 years ago

    ask him or her you like to meet his or her parents in chirstmas--

    see the reaction

  9. heart4theword profile image77
    heart4thewordposted 8 years ago

    Ask if they have kids, if they have kids, here is the first clue they either are married or chances are they have been married.  This should throw up a red flag either way.  If they used to be married, you might wonder what went wrong.  There are always two sides to the story.  Holidays is a good clue, I once met a man I thought was single,(when I was single) until he said that everyone came to his house for thanksgiving, and there were lots of pies.  Made by who I thought?  He never wore a ring, and would flirt with me and stop by to see me.  Sure enough he was married, but never said anything about it or his kids, till I asked, 2 months later.

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    Deborah Sextonposted 8 years ago

    This is simple
    If a man never gives you his phone number or address
    and never takes you out and about in the town where he lives
    he is either married or living with someone.
    If he does take you to a house and says he lives there but never allows  you  to spend the night, the place probably belongs to a friend....You can tell if there are pictures of other people there but not none of him.
    But it shouldn't go this far if you don't know..that is one reason we should become friends with someone before it goes anywhere else.

  11. Ole Number One profile image76
    Ole Number Oneposted 8 years ago

    The question has been posed, "How to find out if someone is married". First of all if something seems "not right" or shady, it probably is just that. It goes along with going with your gut feelings. I am a police officer and I will tell some secrets... read more

  12. Bella DonnaDonna profile image59
    Bella DonnaDonnaposted 8 years ago

    Some people run a background check.

    You might also want to check the sex offender registry in your area. Keep yourself safe!

  13. latoyaknowsmoney profile image57
    latoyaknowsmoneyposted 8 years ago

    Check the Clerk of Courts website in the county where they live. Look for a section called "Marriage License." You can find the clerk of courts website by using a search engine: enter "Clerk of Courts + County name." It's not foolproof because they could have been married in another county or the records could be sealed, but this will, more often than not, get you the results you want.

  14. tarkishat profile image90
    tarkishatposted 8 years ago

    The first question would be, "How could you not know that he was married?" And the response, "Because he didn't tell me."                                                                                                                       First of... read more

  15. helendanger profile image82
    helendangerposted 7 years ago

    The few times I've been asked out by married men, they asked me if I was married first.  And of course I answered, "No, are you?"

    As a non-married person, it struck me as an odd question.  So that might be a clue.

    If you've gotten all the way to the dating stage and you are not sure, just say, "So, what was your last long term relationship like?  Are you still friends?"

    If this is not a dating question, I have to wonder why you would need to know.  If someone is so private about their life that you can't ask this basic question, just leave them be.  They might be gay or unhappily single or on the run from the mob...

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    Jamie Hposted 7 years ago

    Well theres the hard way and then there's the sneaky way.

    If he or she gives you their number it is more likely they're unmarried. When dating if the metting place is often indoors at your place he is having an affair. Ask and you shall know?
    Although when asking you dont want to be overt. Bring up a conversation about your friend "Christina" and how she's happy about her married life and then ask him/her if she has any friends who are married.

    Or theres the sneaky way simply go on to facebook and find out (if they dont have a facebook, stop dating them or whatever. If you dont have facebook you must be living in the '50s) Pictures of the person should tell if they're married.

    Or theres the rather extreme STALK THEM!!! (lol only joking don't stalk people)

  17. teegmny profile image61
    teegmnyposted 7 years ago

    The best way to find out if a man is married is to hire a private investigator if you're not use to doing any amateur investigating on your own. You may also want to try seeing if you can visit him anytime of the day, check to see if he has a ring around his wedding finger. Snoop to see if he has joint accounts with someone else of the same name. Eventually you will find out something then.