is it normal to feel possesive after losing your virginity to the man you love

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  1. whispers of faith profile image61
    whispers of faithposted 9 years ago

    is it normal to feel possesive after losing your virginity to the man you love

    ever since i lost my virginity to HIM ive realized how difficult it was for me to be around his ex who i know has slept with him. i cant help but think 'she had what i have' or 'he gave her what he gives me'. i feel bad that i feel this way. is it normal? am i alone? have i become those crazy chicks you see on tv?

  2. HappyHer profile image58
    HappyHerposted 9 years ago

    It's difficult to deal with your current love's past relationships.  But you can't compare because you are not her and just because they had sex doesn't mean it was anything like what you are having with him.  Get a grip on your insecurities, he is not with her, he is with you and feeling jealous over yesterday's news isn't a healthy past time.

  3. Bowman's Best profile image59
    Bowman's Bestposted 9 years ago

    Yes, because virginity is a sacred gift that you give to someone special. Holding it, and for someone else to appreciate your keeping virginity is a sign of respect and that he/she cares for you the person, and not about your body or what you can do for them. Anyone who does, is basically a user and will lie and manipulate you in order to get what they want.

  4. florisniu profile image60
    florisniuposted 9 years ago

    It's very normal for most women to feel this way after losing their virginity. Unfortunately, these feelings won't go away easily and it will probably take a few more men in your life before you can completely let go of those insecurities.
    You can perhaps try to focus on the other things in your relationship other than the sex you have with him, and that may help you appreciate that he may have chosen you for different reasons.
    Remember you are in the current relationship hopefully so let the ex be the ex and enjoy what you're waking-up to, if it's any good!(lol).
    My guess is that you don't give yourself much praise and you are probably way too young to be worrying about how you feel about your first-timer.
    Í can promise you that after a few more men, you will look back at this and laugh at how trivial these feelings were.
    It's only if you are in your tenth relationship and still feeling jealous and insecure that you should seriously consider calling Dr Phil.
    Otherwise, you are not alone.
    And maybe you are watching too many soap operas as sometimes life does imitate art and vice versa.
    Go enjoy your life. Work on the things that you're good at and spend time with confident and supportive girlfriends. Good luck!

  5. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

    Yes it's normal, not just because you lost your virginity to him, it's normal in a new love situation too, even if you weren't a virgin.

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