How do you move forward together after he's had an affair?
I think it depends on the couple as a whole, their relationship together, and how they both feel. They need to dicuss their feeling and emotions and figure out if the love is still there and if the relationship is worth saving. The man needs to be able to try an attempt to earn his trust back, and if he will end the affair. That is, if it's still on-going. I think it all depends on the people themselves, and how they feel about it.Some woman will just write off their guy and say see-you-later!, and others may feel that their relationship has hit a barrier, but are they able to get past that blockage. I myself have never been in this situation, but I know many woman that have, and the best thing you can do is think can you deal with this, and move on? Is he willing to earn his trust? And most of all, is there still love in the air, or has the flame burnt out.
In one word.. FORGIVENESS. The only direction your relationship will go without forgiveness.. is down. Outside of that, the only other advice I'd give is this ..THINK, and be sure that you REALLY want to 'move forward'.
ACCEPTANCE WITHOUT QUESTIONING WHY? HOW? AND TO WHOM? instead by asking him if he really SINCERE for your forgiveness. Only one mistake is enough for you to accept him. This is also a trial for your relationship to grow and to know each other much deeper..And if you forgive him NEVER ever return those issue to him again...FORGIVE AND FORGET BUT LEARN FOR THOSE YOU'VE FORGIVEN..
I've learned in dating the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." This guy wants what he can't have, and perhaps he doesn't deserve you if you're the one trying to be faithful in a relationship that's going nowhere. If you're married, try counseling before rushing to a divorce, but if you're dating, I say, "Run, honey." You need a man who's devoted to you, and this guy obviously doesn't have your best interests at heart. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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