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my wife and i have been married for 21 yrs and she has been having a affair and

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    jmusilposted 8 years ago

    my wife and i have been married for 21 yrs and she has been having a affair and I am crushed but...

    still love her Sooo much. how do i deal with it. how do i get him out of her live and give me the opportunity to show her again how much i love her

  2. efeglo profile image59
    efegloposted 8 years ago

    You both need to accept Jesus into your life and to your marriage.  Pray to God to change the heart of your wife and u will see God will remove her heart from the man and she will love you again.  It a very little thing for God to handle.  Pray also for the man to live your wife alone, to your surprise both of them will quarrel and you will have your wife back.  Also the love of Christ will fill your home and your marriage will look like you just newly wedded.

  3. h2oforthegaslit profile image55
    h2oforthegaslitposted 8 years ago

    hi, jmusil! It's ok to still want her as your wife, don't let anyone tell you different! I have been married to the same wonderful man for 23 years and I can tell you what will catch her eye - something different in you. Now, this whole ball of BS is not your fault, don't misunderstand me. What I mean is this: stop appearing to be crushed and seem to get on with your life - oh, it will be the hardest thing you ever did, but i promise you she will never come back while u chase her. Make her wonder where u are going and doing. Act like this doesn't phase you. Smile. Get some new clothes. Go out to a bar and hire some cute chic to make her jealous. All is fair smile I wish you all the best, jmusil.

  4. padmendra profile image46
    padmendraposted 7 years ago

    Pain of this kind is neither tolerable nor  expressable. I admire your patience and love towards your wife who is cheating you but despite the fact narrated  here,  you are ready to give her the opportunity to show your love again.  Do reminding her in a special way like showing the pictures of past happy moments you spent together, reminding her what she told you when you  both were enjoying life  anywhere or  even in bed.  You can take help of a person who is friendly with you both. Carry the emotion while telling all these things. If she is a good human being, she will certainly repent and come back  to you.Don't delay your move as you know  all's is fair  in love and war . One thing, however, I would like to suggest that you can control everything but you can't control heart or mind of a person. She may or may not come back to you. Be brave to face the reality as time keeps on changing and every cloud has a silver lining..