How do I regain trust for my boyfriend of four years?

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  1. englishgeek profile image61
    englishgeekposted 11 years ago

    How do I regain trust for my boyfriend of four years?

    We have been together 4 years since high school and are now in college. A while ago [2yrs] he cheated on me, and I did so in return to spite him. He never stoppped talking to the 'other woman' and I finally left him because his ways weren't changing. 4 months later he came back to me and said he would like to date me/give him a 'trial period' to see for myself if he had changed. I did so for 3 months and saw his change. But now my trust is not 100% and I want to get there.I look through his phone,but now there is a password.I want to trust and stop looking through his things,but how?

  2. Runs With Spirits profile image60
    Runs With Spiritsposted 11 years ago

    Your only real option is to consider the following questions: Do you trust him enough to stop spying on him and move forward in the relationship without hanging on to the past (this means letting go of what happened and accepting the lessons you learned so they do not repeat themselves), or do you feel incapable of ever again trusting him completely and know that you'll feel insecure and frightened of what he might be doing for the rest of your life as a couple?

    If your answer is the latter, pursuing the relationship is a futile endeavor, and you're probably better off ending the relationship immediately. A relationship without trust is no relationship at all.

  3. englishgeek profile image61
    englishgeekposted 11 years ago

    That was great advice Runs with Spirits, it really made me put some thought into this. Thank You

  4. Ladybythelake55 profile image60
    Ladybythelake55posted 10 years ago

    You never learn to trust anyone a 100% this is what my late father told me way back when I was growing up. Trust is something to gain and if someone blows it  you may never be able to trust him again. Two wrongs don't make a right and just because your boyfriend cheated on you did not make it right for you to cheat on him. Take the higher road- learn to forgive but you may never forget what he did to you.

  5. Mrs. J. B. profile image59
    Mrs. J. B.posted 10 years ago

    FORGET IT............. You will never fully trust him again. Call it quits which you should have done the moment you found out he was cheating on you. Spend time by yourself and with your friends having fun.

  6. profile image0
    blake4dposted 9 years ago

    You either trust me again or you doin't, there is not regaining. Thatis often just a word for justifying your lack of trust.


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