Have you ever been betrayed by the one you love? and yet you still give them ano

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  1. .mely. profile image60
    .mely.posted 9 years ago

    Have you ever been betrayed by the one you love? and yet you still give them another chance?

    Have you ever been with someone you would do anything and everything for and then they've...cheated on you? and they try to blame you for their mistakes? well i have and i've gotten tired of not coming first... If they really love you and i mean really really love you shouldn't you almost if not always come first? well i think so especially when you have given up almost everything to make them happy...

  2. barbara yulia profile image59
    barbara yuliaposted 9 years ago

    yes i have... i found out about a year ago that my husband was cheating on me. and i wasn't even being suspicious because he showed no signs of cheating. i accidentally found a text message on his cell phone to another woman, talking about sex. later on i found out she's also married.

    i was so shocked... but i thought if i confronted him by yelling at him, it would do me no good at all and he might not admit his actions. so i asked him politely when he was in a good mood and showed him the text message. he denied it at first but eventually admitted his error.

    i asked him why he did it and, just like you said, he sort of blamed me because he thought i haven't given him the attention he needed. and i was surprised because all that time, whatever he wanted, i let him have. i trusted him to do the right thing with all the freedom i gave him. and he violated that trust.

    but i learned to forgive him. as time passes by. i reminded him of the families torn apart because of infidelity. some of them were close friends of ours. and i asked him if that was what he wanted. i gave him a choice. i never thought about separating because there were no real hard problems in our relationship. we have a son, and i just asked him what kind of example did he want to give to our son.

    our relationship is better now. he realized he made a mistake and understood that i have given my best from my part.

    love means sometimes we may get hurt. it's normal in all relationships. it's up to you if you want to give him another chance. learn to forgive. but if he makes it a habit then maybe it's best to let him go. if you're not married, maybe it's easier.

    but you need to know that we can't always come first. if you love him, have faith that he loves you too, but don't 'tie him up'. guys don't like that... they still need a little freedom now and then. that's what i learned too. but if after given the freedom, he still does the same thing over and over again, then it's over for him.

    well i hope you can be able to heal from this experience. i wish you the best... smile

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    SpaceAgeposted 9 years ago

    my drunken parents always abused me; especially my mom. i'd always given them chance after chance 2 change. that nearly killed me. it eventually got so bad i had 2 tell, & i was rescued. i learned that my parents had another little girl who died in their care. i was shocked @ how close i came

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    reeltaulkposted 9 years ago

    I believe those type of people are just blood suckers......their life is miserable so by any means especially if you Love them they make it their business to make you miserable.  Sounds twisted, I know but that is their reality as well as mind set.  You would think they would either try to mature or do some soul searching to change.....Nah  9 times out of ten they learn their lesson when it's too late....Oh well

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    Dog On A Missionposted 9 years ago

    No. If I was betrayed, that would be the end of the relationship.

  6. Journey2244 profile image60
    Journey2244posted 9 years ago

    I would suggest that he gets help.... Don't let him blame you because he got caught.

    In order to put a stop to this madness, you have to put yourself first from this point forward. The trust is broken and is something he has to earn, starting NOW.

    If you don't make him earn your trust, then you are giving him permission to do it again, because he knows he can get away with it.

    Remember people only treat you how you let them treat you.

    I hope it work's out for you.

  7. landscapeartist profile image73
    landscapeartistposted 6 years ago

    i would have done everything for my second husband.  I put up with his cheating because I loved him so much.  I thought that eventually he would realize he loved me.  He didn't and after 20 years I finally left him.  i lost track of how many 2nd chances I had given him.


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