Why do guys just stop and stare? Am I that intimidating? I hear you whisper about how pretty I am.
Why don't you come up to me? I am currently writing a blog about this please help with your inputs.
Dear All That:
Why would they come up to you when you give off vibes that all you are interested in is to write a blog about them?
Sometimes guys feel that if a girl is very attractive, she is stuck on herself, and only wants a trophy guy. Most guys would not want a relationship with someone so shallow, so yes, they are leery. Looks are a whole lot less important than being open, friendly, non-judgemental. Just as you want guys to give you a chance, in spite of your beauty, guys want a girl who will give them a chance.
I remember a girl who treated everyone she met as though they were the most important person. She would smile and listen and respond kindly. She fairly glowed, and she was the most popular girl in the class. It was a joy to see her interact with others. I am sure all the boys thought she was beautiful.
I think one reason guys are intimidated by attractive girls is because of evolution. Back in pre-ancient times, when people lived in very small communities, if a guy messed up with an attractive girl, word would get around fast. Kind of like a small office environment today.
So if the guy tried to make a move and got shut down, or did it wrong, he was guaranteed never to mate with any other woman in that community for the rest of his life. So males evolved the tendency to be very careful and cautious around attractive women so as to avoid screwing themselves (no pun intended). Being scared or anxious or nervous around attractive girls is part of this tendency.
I agree with secularist that we have to look into evolution to find the answer. It's not only the small community issue. Attractive woman was a much valuable resource in cave-man times so when you saw one, you could be a hundred percent sure that there was a club wielding chief or some other brute around the corner. You would have to be extremely careful around and perhaps stay away from hotties if you wanted to survive in the stone age.
That being said there is surely an element of character that cannot be totally condoned. If the woman is constantly stressing her ability to find new partners, it will be perceived by the man as an indication that the prospective relationship will be a short-term one. That will make the woman much less suitable for those who seek a more profound relationship. Alternately, it will make her extremely suitable for those seeking a superficial one.
A lot of men I know are too intimidated by beautiful women. They complain about being single...and talk about a woman in line infront of them in the bank or something....when I ask did you talk to her...did you get her number....I always get the same answer. You have to ask in order to even have a chance at getting what you want.
It is my experience that women LIKE being talked to....when I engage in conversation with a beautiful woman they usually thank me....and are glad I approached them.
grow some balls guys.....be respectful, talk about something you are interested in ...and you may be very surprised. That woman who is "too beautiful " to talk to ...may be as lonely as you are
Some people assume that attractive people are taken so sometime they wont even bother
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