hey, my boyfriend of 8 years said its over, that we`re not ready to be together, what should i do?
we had about 2 fights following the break up, in both i physical hit him. The second one was on the day of a family member death, he just snap that day. I email him 3 days after and told him i was completely embarrass etc..and for him to let me know how he was feeling. 2 days later he told me that we were done we are not ready. Part of me want to go and let everything out, his brother recommended that i do the same,his brother also told me he said that i choose the worst day to start a fight(family death)..also we broke up once for 3 months because he thought i cheated on him..
i think u should really think about if its worth it, what really happen to cause the break up, was it u? him? or even the whole death of a family member..maybe wait a couple a days and see if u still feel the same about confronting him...love is crazy and it will make u do crazy things..
don't worry you have YEARS to worry about boys, just let him go.
It seems that you need to stay separated.That will
determine how much love is really there.
You both need to look at the picture a little closer.
What will be will be.If it don't fit.....don't force it.
If you are physically attacking your partner, I not only think the relationship should be over and stay over, but that you need to go talk to a counselor about your emotional issues and how to find better methods for dealing with them. Whether you are male or female, hitting your partner during an argument is domestic violence, which is a crime.
To start with, your relationship does not sound very healthy anyway. However, if you think there is a chance then you need to give him the space he needs. Your boyfriend has just had a family member die. He isn't going to be in the best of moods, especially when you two are having a rough patch.
Ask him to meet you in a few weeks, you need to sit down and talk, not through e-mail or text. If then he still feels the same you need to let him go.
I think the best thing is always - move on. If you're going to come back together later - you will. It isn't going to happen this week. Probably not this month. Maybe not this year. Get busy with other things. Don't waste a year or more thinking about it... move on. If you found one b/f, you can find another. There are 6+ billion people in the world and almost half of those are men. Make yourself date-able. Love-able. Figure out more about what you want in a relationship. If you're under 30-35, you've got a whole lot of dating before you are ready to marry someone - so enjoy it. Take your time. At 35 you still have 45 years of life left - chances are. You'll have 45 years with the one you choose for life. That's enough - right?
Get a job. You will meet new people. Try to further your education. Night school is very inexpensive. Your local high school offers all kinds of courses from foreign languages, to knitting, welding, carpentry, word skills, computer skills. You not only will learn, but you will meet other people who are trying to better themselves. BETTER is the keyword here. You will meet better men. But you need to better yourself. And no more HITTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never. You must learn to be more even tempered. Get more skills. And finally (I don't know your age) don't waste eight years on a guy. If you are not married by two or three years tops, it is never going to happen.
I noticed this was posted 21 months ago. Just wondering how it worked out for you. I hope that everything is looking brighter and you are in a healthy relationship, whether with that same boyfriend or someone new.
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