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What Should A Man Do If His Girlfriend Sent A Female Friend To Tempt Him If He C

  1. ngureco profile image83
    ngurecoposted 7 years ago

    What Should A Man Do If His Girlfriend Sent A Female Friend To Tempt Him If He Can Eat The Fruit?

  2. Tranita profile image58
    Tranitaposted 7 years ago

    Pass the test or you're out of there. lol Really. She's probably just makin sure she's not trusting the wrong man. I think after giving that test (if you passed it) she will either trust you or not which could end the relationship or make it stronger.

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    secondimpressionsposted 7 years ago

    1. Question why he's with someone who obviously doesn't trust him and feels the need to try something like this.

    2. Get out of the relationship and learn from the experience. Those who would go that far are either looking for a reason to blame you for screwing up or feeling insecure about their own issues. It's not the guys place to fix it or to give her fuel for the fire.

    Real relationships don't need to be tested like this, they have enough real test on their own. How you deal with life and communicate with your partner should be answers enough.

  4. lostdogrwd profile image60
    lostdogrwdposted 7 years ago

    the word here is girlfriend not wife. if a girlfriend send a female friend to him to tempt him , he should hit it. you only commited if married not friend

  5. humagaia profile image54
    humagaiaposted 7 years ago

    If the woman is that stupid, do for it. If the friend is up for it make her your girlfriend and dump the other one. If you stay with the first one you will forever be at the brunt end of her paranoia.

  6. dabeaner profile image57
    dabeanerposted 7 years ago

    Do the friend and dump the girl-friend.  Make the friend the new girl-friend.

    ngureco:  You really come up with some off-the-wall questions.  Some of them are really funny, like this one.  :-)

  7. suny51 profile image55
    suny51posted 7 years ago

    if she has no faith,what can you do?just try to tell her stop doing stupid things if you know it.Else you start doing practical  things

  8. USMCwifey09 profile image69
    USMCwifey09posted 7 years ago

    A secure and healthy relationship doesn't need anything like this. Obviously, a serious talk is needed.

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    ericsomethingposted 7 years ago

    She's playing games. Do yourself a favor and let her know, right away, that you don't do games. She gets one warning, and that's only 'cause I'm in a good mood.

    USMCwifey and secondimpressions are right. There are enough real tests to go around without having to play games with one another.

  10. wingedcentaur profile image84
    wingedcentaurposted 7 years ago

    You know, there is a movie out (or was recently in theaters) with this very theme. It's called Chloe starring Julianne Moore and Liam Neeson. Its about a wife (Moore) who suspects the fidelity of her husband (Neeson) and sends a club dancer (Chloe) to try to seduce him. I didn't see. The preview actually unnerved me a little.

    There is not an easy answer to this question. But I want to pose a theory about an underlying motive force that might be in play here. The girlfriend wants her man to cheat on her with this woman - so that she can watch. In other words, there is a voyeuristic impulse operative on the part of the woman.

    By picking the woman herself, the girlfriend may secretly feel like she has more control over things. Sound preposterous? Consider this.

    Suppose there is this televangelist who comes on every other Sunday preaching about the evils of bestiality - like he sees it as a priority to wipe the Earth clean of this particular sin. What if he has a secret fascination with it (even if never intends to physically do it or try it), railing against it all the time, allows him to keep thinking about it.

    If I say to you "Don't think of a yellow elephant," - even if you tried to comply, you couldn't do it. That is because you have to mentally touch the idea in order to try to "put it out of your mind,"

    Frankly, I would say the woman wants to either have threesomes or watch, but doesn't know how to broach the subject.

  11. outdoorsguy profile image55
    outdoorsguyposted 7 years ago

    this is just me.. I never cheat ever.. dont get me wrong Temptation is there but I dont do it.  but I would break up with my GF at that point.  If she doesnt trust me enough to believe I wont, then I dont need to be with her.

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    muddles4posted 7 years ago

    i think that you should be strong enough in yourself to know if you want to be with someone who doesn't trust you and if your relationship can withstand this kind of thing.
    1. politely send the friend home safe in the knowledge that you are not interested in her.
    2. have a serious talk with your girlfriend and find out what issues or problems have caused her to be suspicious of you in the first place.
    3. be HONEST with her. she obviously need reassuring that you want to be with her and her alone.
    4. make a JOINT decision about weather your relationship is important enough to you, or strong enough to work on the trust issues between you, and weather you both want to continue with the relationship or not.