He said he wanted to get married, asked my parents, bought a ring, and now..says he wants to "wait"?
After 1 year together, my boyfriend (he is 30, I am 29) is wanting to "wait" to get engaged. We have already discussed the potential wedding, dates, places to live, timed our respective apartments to have their leases up at the same time in December and even share money to pay off debt so we can pay cash for our wedding. We have discussed our future financial moves (we both have GREAT jobs and both make over 6 figures a year). We share the idea of kids, home life, Christian values and we LOVE each other. Now, he thinks we aren't "ready". He says he loves me and wants to marry me, just not now.
He said he wanted to get married, asked my parents, bought a ring, and now..says he wants to "wait"? After 1 year together, my boyfriend (he is 30, I am 29) is wanting to "wait" to get engaged. We have already discussed the potential wedding, dates,... read more
the only reason a man will say that is they may had hit another woman and and how easy it was or women are throwing themselves at him and he thinking on what he missing but you have to let him know what he going to miss is you. and if he did get with another woman don't trip for you two are not marry yet but working on it ,but let him know that he will miss you. good luck and hope this is a real love and not what someone have. for that something else but a major problem with successful women who have no one man of there own
You deserve a proper explaination from him to get to the bottom of the reasons for him ultimately calling off your engagement. He's had a change of heart about moving forward in your relationship and what you do about it next will depend on what you're feeling, what you want and what kind of explaination he can give you for deciding he is not ready for it after already buying the ring etc...
Marriage should never be rushed if you want it to last for a life time. Some men just need time to ensure they are in the right mind set. Marriage is a life commitment and must be respected in order to be successful. If he has taken the steps of Asking your parents and buying the ring his feelings and thoughts are definitely there.
Everyone moves according to their own internal life clock. Men must be comfortable with a situation in order to give 100% without doubt and regret. Let your man be your future husband, when the time is right you will be walking down the isle and living a great Christian valued life.
Most importantly remain positive and don't let negativity take over! If he tells you he loves you and his actions back its up what hurry?
its all about the 80/20 rule. The rule states that 100% of the time, we get 80% of what we want...and we are content with it until we oneday come across the 20% weve been missing...then we (especially men) forget the 80% and rush to get the 20% and we r happy about the 20% until we realize we got the 20% but in the process lost the 80%. Thats when we try to come back get the 80% but its often too late...
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