Sure sign that the girl isn't into me?

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  1. profile image51
    jacksonsixposted 8 years ago

    Sure sign that the girl isn't into me?

    Dear Isabella,

    I am interested in this girl I met recently at a social event. I've invited her several times to hang out with me and some good friends of mine and she has come everytime. However, I never got the feeling that she was interested in me. Still, I was going to give it one more shot on her birthday.

    It was her birthday the other day. I called to wish her a happy birthday with the added intention of asking her out. She didn't pick up and  didn't bother to return my call either.

    Time to move on for sure?

    Thank you.

  2. rajivnandy profile image61
    rajivnandyposted 8 years ago

    i made a hub on the subject ..please do have  a look . … 10-Reasons

  3. Electric Feel profile image72
    Electric Feelposted 8 years ago

    Ditch her! She doesn't deserve you if she won't call you back. There are probably plenty of other people that will actually make you feel like a friend.

  4. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    You still could be in with a chance, afterall, each time you've invited her to hang out with you and some friends she has come. I wouldn't be too offended that she didn't answer or return your call on her Birthday she may have been busy celebrating with her family and/or her close friends and hasn't thought to call back. Often you can call and leave someone a Happy Birthday message and they don't feel they need to call you back (she didn't know you were going to ask her out so probably didn't feel she needed to call you back to thank you for her Birthday wishes).   So, I would stay it's best to stay positive and wouldn't count her out yet.

  5. padmendra profile image45
    padmendraposted 8 years ago

    I don't think you should continue thinking about that girl. She has given you clear hint that she is not serious about you. Giving her one more chance will be a waste of time and instead you should move on for a honest relationship.

  6. MayG profile image92
    MayGposted 8 years ago

    Hmm, you forgot one important detail:  did you ask her to call you back when you left the Happy Birthday message or not?  If I had a call from someone wishing me Happy Birthday I may not necessarily call back either.  She could have had dozens of such calls that day.  I don't know why you are in such a rush to move on, when it sounds like you've only recently met.  Why are you young people in such a hurry?  Continue to 'hang out' with her.  Give her a chance to get to know you and decide whether she is interested or not.  From my experience, the best relationships are those that start off slowly with friendship.  Of course, you could always be brave and ask her out for a date, just you and her, not with friends.  She may have absolutely no idea you are interested in her, you guys are pretty good at being cool.  Good luck!

  7. profile image51
    jacksonsixposted 8 years ago

    A follow up.

    Last night, she finally sent me a quick thank you message on Facebook. Really gave me no way to naturally follow up or extend the communication.

    I am just gonna move on. It's pretty obvious she is not interested. If I still ask her out it'll be like sticking hand in fire, just asking for it.

  8. days leaper profile image76
    days leaperposted 8 years ago

    I'm no expert, but would it have been so bad to add/say on the answer machine,  "oh! Let me know if you want us to go out to celebrate?"  -if the birthday treat had gone well, you may have found a natural opportunity to ask her if she wants to progress to the next level of going on "a proper date".
    I hope it's not too late, but follow your instincts; they're usually the best guide.


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