Is saving a marriage that is facing rough weather important? How?

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   sofsposted 13 years ago

   Is saving a marriage that is facing rough weather important? How?

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   spkanuposted 13 years ago

   God hates divorce. Yes its worth it if you focus on God blessing you and making you happy in any situation...if you have kids and you would like to give them a chance to have a special family because many kids do not have both parents at home...it's very special for kids...but if the fights are being done in front of the kids, or the other partner is not a God fearing person and has or does not demonstrate any chance of change...especially if there is adultery in the relationship, I would say pray about it and God will show you the way.

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   michaelmalyonposted 13 years ago

   It's called security my friend. God developed relationships to be a shelter in stormy weather. It's easy to give up, but if you can't push through, you will never find the peace of mind of having someone who can stand by your side. If you can develop a relationship that can survive anything, you will have the motivation to achieve anything, become anyone and find yourself. But while insecurities threaten your relationship, you will always be left with doubts. Am i really good enough?

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   Dorothee-Gyposted 13 years ago

   I think it depends. If it feels better to you to imagine this relationship to go on, it is worth saving it (and I think it really doesn't matter which legal state your in, married or just living together).
   
   The point is that marriage was NOT invented by God, but it was construed as a purely practical means to a) ensure that the wealth stayed in one family, b) the offspring was from the male spouse and c) to take care of the mother. Main reason was always to acquire and maintain wealth. That's why there are many cultures, where marriage is a solely economical thing, the woman has to bring enough money with her to get into the family.
   
   In our modern culture, reasons to maintain a marriage or a relationship are as varied as the people who are in them. I think it all melts down to how you feel about the relationship. If it makes you feel good and you think it is worth maintaining, you should do it.
   
   If you think that it would have to change fundamentally in order to work, my advice would be, forget about that. Nobody really changes, we don't do it ourselves in most cases, but we tend to expect it from others. It doesn't work.
   
   Try for a while to collect all positive aspects of your relationship, make lists of it and look for things to appreciate. If this doesn't work, it may very well be time to move on.
   
   Best luck to you,
   D.

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   sofsposted 13 years ago

   Thanx Guys I was just starting up some discussion, and I've heard gr8t views. I believe in marriage and believe that all relationships call for a give and take attitude. None of us are perfect.
   Michael my friend you said it right, it boils down to self security. If you can hold your own ground, no one can shake you.
   Spkanu, i am in agreement with you. God made man and woman. He said What God has put together let no man put assunder!!
   Thanx!! You guys are great!

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   tinawehaposted 13 years ago

   If you have children it is important to try to stay together unless there is something horrid like abuse or drug abuse.

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