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My husband has cheated on me mulitiple times over the past ten years. Should I s

  1. lilypjmom2122 profile image72
    lilypjmom2122posted 7 years ago

    My husband has cheated on me mulitiple times over the past ten years. Should I stay?

    We have children. I don't think i can ever trust him again. Everytime i forgive and move on he does it again. i feel stuck!

  2. vydyulashashi profile image57
    vydyulashashiposted 7 years ago

    better leave him..but wat if your children ask for dad in future..and if u marry any other whoom u can trust n love n children are aware that he is not their dad, they may show compulsive disorders depending upon the situations they faced in childhood..so thin abt children once

  3. sofs profile image81
    sofsposted 7 years ago

    A very delicate question that requires a lot of input from you.
    May not be advisable here..
    Just think through this before u decide.

    What has kept you with him  for the last ten years? Obviously it didnt bother you so much... or for some reason you bore it all
    What is pushing you to take a decision now?
    What are you exposing your children to?
    What are your beliefs about marriage - will your decision be in line with it.?
    Can another arrangement like giving yourselves space work?
    Make sure you will never regret your decisions.

    Think through before you decide/
    Wishing you the very best and clear thinking

  4. just mee profile image55
    just meeposted 7 years ago

    WooooW! i am in the same exact situation. i can't believe their is someone in this world going through the same situation as me. o.k here it goes. i was with my man, "fiancé" for 9 years. we have 2 kids together a 7 year old and a 4 year old. we lived everywhere together. hes cheated on me 3xs i hate him for that. nowadays i find myself checking his messages and emails. his pockets and wallets. i feel like such a stalker. i feel like he thinks im an idiot thats why he keeps doing it. he makes me sick. but hes still here. in my house living with me and sleeping in my bed. as soon as i meet the man for me hes gone. im glad i didn't marry him. ur not stuck jus get a divorce to prove him wrong. he doesn't deserve to be with you. he's a looser just like my man.

  5. swapna123 profile image65
    swapna123posted 7 years ago

    Sorry to hear about this.  Maybe you put up with him all this time with a belief that he would mend his behavior or thinking about your children. But you know what ? Irrespective of whether he is a great dad or not, he is a bad husband and doesn't deserve you.
    However, decision to leave your husband needs lot of planning - both emotionally and financially. Would you be able to take care  of yourself and the kids in case you leave him ? If yes, there is no reason to live with someone who doesn't love or respect you.

  6. qtkeeks profile image54
    qtkeeksposted 7 years ago

    I think that you really know the answer but since you asked......NO
    Trust is important and respect is even more important and without the two what does love have to do with it...........

  7. Klena profile image64
    Klenaposted 7 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear about this situation Lilypjmom2122.

    Trust is perhaps the most fundamental block of your marriage - without it you are just strangers. How does your husband treat you besides the cheating? Have you consider marriage counselling? I know, it's not a solution but if he agrees, maybe you can start to work on the trust issue.

    Your children does present problems if you decide to leave. Remember that you are also valid in this equation. Your happiness is just as important. And I'm so sorry that he has been making you unhappy.

    If you want to leave, then you will find a way to make it work. Your children have a father, and they be able to have access to him. But you really need to make the choice based on what will make you happy.

    Good luck

  8. god and humanity profile image57
    god and humanityposted 7 years ago

    In giving an answer, first I would like to ask you a simple question, if you do not take me a miss. How about you? did you cheat on your husband? Whether the answer is either in affirmative or negetive, my advise to you is to keep going. Because. a bird in hand is better than two in the bush. Where is the garuntee that the next one would not be worse than him?  Which means you have only 50% chances that you will meet a better guy.