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why do all men feel like they have to have controll of the relationship?

  1. profile image47
    samy_0221posted 7 years ago

    why do all men feel like they have to have controll of the relationship?

  2. bunnypoeta profile image39
    bunnypoetaposted 7 years ago

    Not all the mens are like that !!!
    to take control isnt loving, is making another almost to worship and that doesnt create PURE LOVE !!!
    Take care !!!

  3. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    This is sexist, a negative statement saying, 'all men,' is the same as a negative statement about all women, or a negative statement about all blacks...

  4. minxibell profile image60
    minxibellposted 7 years ago

    most of the time they do & its because we let them, or they have had that kind of relationship in the past so expect it.

  5. nightwork4 profile image59
    nightwork4posted 7 years ago

    saying all men is kind of sexist i hate to say. there is nothing all men or all women do. were individuals. the reason some men do want to be in control is partially about how they were raised. another reason is that throughout history men were generally the bread-winners and the strongest person in a relationship. though it's not as true today, these changes will take time for many to adjust to.

  6. Tom_Radford profile image62
    Tom_Radfordposted 7 years ago

    There is always a leader and a follower in a relationship be they male or female. One is usually more in love than the other. Sometimes the more insecure person tries to control the relationship, while the other person just sits back knowing that all they have to do is point to the door and the real power will reveal itself. Sadly, the more you try to control your partner, the more likely you are to lose them.

  7. twilliamson profile image59
    twilliamsonposted 6 years ago

    Men are constantly trying to prove that they are men, especially by doing "manly" things like watching football, eating a lot, hunting, building things, and,most importantly, being the head of the household. Men have this constant need to be dominant because if they aren't, they feel as if they are nothing. "Daddy brings home the bacon" is what my father used to say. This was true in every sense in our household and, no doubt, I admire my father greatly for his hard work. Being a farmer is not an easy task. I would definitely consider him my hero. But the question is, what if my father wasn't the one working and my mother was the one bringing home the bacon? I don't think that would fly too well. This is a man's world whether women like to believe it or not. We still have a long way to go before there will be equality amongst the sexes, and even so, I don't think there ever will be. Because men have always had control, it would be out of the ordinary for them to not have control. With women, if we don't have control then nobody thinks twice because we don't normally have control. For instance, if a town has a basketball team that has always went to state and have always had an undefeated season, the year that a team comes around that does not fall into this norm they are considered failures whether they still had a decent season or not. It is the same with men. Men, throughout time, have always been in control. The second they don't have control they are considered failures by society. Women are just as much control freaks as men, but we are more secretive. Our approach to control is subtle. When our man struts around and acts as if they are control in front of their friends, we usually just smile our secretive smile knowing the truth: women are the ones pulling the strings while the men, well, they're just dancing to our gentle pulls at their strings.