Is it wrong to sell a promise ring an ex-fiance gave you if he refuses to speak

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   Thunder Vixenposted 14 years ago

   Is it wrong to sell a promise ring an ex-fiance gave you if he refuses to speak to you again...
   
   after trying for two years? Also what of returning his mother's engagement ring and his first teddy without getting into problems? I don't want to give such things away when they mean so much to his mother. I'm tired of these things laying around in my closet but I feel mean to throw them out...

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   CoCoVposted 14 years ago

   Wait, is the promise ring he gave you belongs to his mother's?

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   ExpandYourMindposted 14 years ago

   I'd return the ring to his mother.  As far as selling the promise ring, since he apparently doesn't care if he gets it back, I'd say go for it.

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   Thunder Vixenposted 14 years ago

   Engagement ring is his mother's, the promise ring he paid for. However, I'm not sure how they would feel if I showed up to drop it off...But it must be done I suppose.

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   sid_candidposted 14 years ago

   I would prefer to return back the ring to the mother.

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   For the engagement ring and teddy...if you don't feel good about just showing up on the doorstep, there's always mailing it with or without a quick explanatory note.
   
   As for the promise ring...pawn shop, eBay, who cares? It's a piece of jewelry that's not wanted anymore. I wouldn't feel any qualms about selling a wedding ring after a divorce, nor do I see any problems with disposing of a promise ring when the promise didn't last. What would he do with it if you gave it back anyway? Anyone he meets in the future might be pretty offended to discover that she's the second person to receive the same promise ring.

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   drbillfanninposted 14 years ago

   Give his mother back her stuff. Since he didn't get married, she may want it back. As for the other stuff, if he bought it, sell it. It belongs to you.

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   mikecoderposted 14 years ago

   Return the ring back to the mother. Don't sell it since it means so much to you. Just take it back!

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   Gabriel Wilsonposted 14 years ago

   You must be a very good person to consider the feelings of his mother, and indeed him, regarding his first teddy!
   Seeing as the engagement ring belonged to his mother and sadly your marriage didn't happen, by all accounts you should return her engagement ring: not because you feel you must but because you are a good person. If the situation is difficult write a little note, perhaps something like; I want to return this ring to it's rightful owner_regarding the teddy, try; I felt it only right to return this symbol of many childhood memories. Sign off with, Regards and your name, and post them.
   The promise ring is a little different, and this is your personal choice as we don't know how you really feel. However after two years, perhaps you should pawn it and use the money to treat yourself in a way that you'll remember, and one that brings a smile to your face. Good luck.

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