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Do you sleep in the same bed as your spouse?

  1. izettl profile image96
    izettlposted 7 years ago

    Do you sleep in the same bed as your spouse?

    If so, then what are the benefits ? And if not, why not?

  2. linky2010 profile image60
    linky2010posted 7 years ago

    Of course, even when we quarrel, we have an agreement to sleep together smile.

  3. Abecedarian profile image77
    Abecedarianposted 7 years ago

    For over 26 years, unless he's gone on business or when he was in the military and gone on manuevers.  Then I always slept in one of his T-shirts and I still do.

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    dracaslairposted 7 years ago

    well if i'm not feeling good or that time of the month. i would sleep alone. i got to have my space at times of medical needs

  5. triosol profile image59
    triosolposted 7 years ago

    Yes. For the last 5 years unless He has gone on Business trip.

  6. padmendra profile image46
    padmendraposted 7 years ago

    It is a customary that married couples should sleep together in the same bed  and if not something  is wrong  in their  relationship. Te benefits of sleeping together is that  in case one of the  partners is required to get up early morning, he will be helped by his partner. Secondly most of the couples get calm sleep if they sleep on the same bed.Some female  partners do get  bad dreams while they are asleep. In that case, the partner gets morale boosting confidence from the male partner.  However, some time  space is required by one of the pafrtners having physical problem and  sleeping in the same bed  therefore  becomes less beneficial fo him/her.. As  a whole, sleeping in the same bed is good for the spouses to stay long in the relationship.

  7. izettl profile image96
    izettlposted 7 years ago

    some studies show women sleep worse with their spouse in bed and men sleep better. Does anybody agree or disagree?

  8. wmspringer profile image59
    wmspringerposted 7 years ago

    I have an easier time getting to sleep with my wife next to me.
    Except, of course, when she won't stop moving around and stealing the covers!

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    Listerinoposted 7 years ago

    Yes I think people who sleep apart drift apart. I couldn't sleep without my fiance's arms around me at night. Falling asleep in his arms makes my night every time.

  10. jasminayoung profile image60
    jasminayoungposted 7 years ago

    The night should begin with you and your spouse in bed together.  Then the snoring starts. Then the fight over the blankets start. Then the fight over who has more bed space starts.  So one of you leave the bed and move elsewhere. Doing this every so often is OK. You can't function properly when sleep deprived. But don't make this a regular occurence.  Don't set up another bedroom for yourself away from your partner. Over time, the intimacy will be lost.  Over time, you will become room mates rather than partners, rather than lovers. Always try and begin the night in bed together, to share stories about the day, to hold each other close and support each other.  If you  really can't sleep then give yourself a break and move to another bed. But always come back to share the ed together. It's the one place at the end of the day when it's just the two of you.

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    DoItForHerposted 7 years ago

    No. I thrash around a lot. It makes for poor sleep for both of us, so we sleep apart for mutual benefit.

    My dog sleeps with me unless I flop around too much. She will get down until I'm calm again, then hops back up.

    I imagine in some cultures it is common to sleep in separate beds, even separate rooms. After all, it is but a wee walk to the next bed!

    I read one time that in the old days, (1700's?) that if company was coming over, it wasn't considered odd to have two people of the same sex share the same bed. Back then, times were tough and having the warmth of a fellow human could have meant a much more comfortable, warmer night's sleep. I don't know if that is true, but nowadays, we do have seem to attach some type of sexual stigma to acts that really have no sexual component to it.

    Sleeping in the same bed or sleeping apart should not have a perfunctory stigma of any kind attached. One's sleeping arrangements -in and of itself- should not determine a healthy, long-term relationship.

  12. thougtforce profile image89
    thougtforceposted 7 years ago

    I do want to, but if I do, I am not going to get any sleep at all. There is nothing that can reduce my husbands snoring! We have tried it all. Working full time whithout sleep is not working. And the relationship dosent benefit from it either, since you are constantly tired! 
    Now, in a last attempt he is trying to reduce weight , so hopefully we will soon!

  13. Guy Collins profile image61
    Guy Collinsposted 7 years ago

    No. We love each other madly, but between the snoring, tossing and turning, blanket theft and need for different temperatures while sleeping, one of us is always short on sleep.

    So sharing the bed is always a special event, but getting a good night's sleep is a godsend.

    If we want to live with each other, happily, separate sleeping arrangements are a must.

  14. burning bush profile image73
    burning bushposted 7 years ago

    Sleeping is a physical human need and not a part of human relationships. The endurance of a marriage or coupling does not rely on the pragmatic aspect of sleeping. Many couples, including my spouse and I, find the need to sleep separately for all the reasons mentioned by others who commented. We have been married almost 40 years. Admittedly I have a health condition which mandates my sleeping somewhat upright and while that could probably be accomodated by a new (expensive) bed, we are acutely aware that our sleeping arrangement has no bearing on our mutual attachment. It also does not preclude the "sleeping" in the same bed when, as the commercial says, the time is right. I am only 5 feet away smile

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    paxwillposted 7 years ago

    We sleep in the same bed because one bed is cheaper than two beds and takes up less space wink

    But I don't think whether you sleep in the same bed or separate beds makes much of a difference in the relationship.  I know many happy couples who have to sleep in separate beds because one person moves or snores too much. To each his own. How you interact when you're awake is what's important!

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