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What attracts a woman to another woman

  1. rosariosblog profile image60
    rosariosblogposted 6 years ago

    softness, her style, her attractiveness

    1. kerryg profile image85
      kerrygposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Actually, my biggest girl!crush to date has been Kara Thrace from BSG (the fictional character, not so much the actress by herself, curiously). "Softness" and "style" do not really apply. lol

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgM7uHpgG4o

      That said, I would imagine taste in women varies among lesbian and bisexual women just like taste in men varies among straight women. wink

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Kara Thrace wow

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      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      heterophobia, most likely.

      1. camlo profile image83
        camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Uh? Why should that be?

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          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Men are instinctively more dominant.
          Some women fear that.

          1. camlo profile image83
            camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            You meant fear of that characteristic rather than fear of heterosexuality? Then is heterophobia the right word?

            Instinctive male dominance - what an out-dated idea ...

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              Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Much more plausible than instinctive male femininity.

              And the word I used is the right word.
              It's the opposing word that isn't correctly defined.

              1. camlo profile image83
                camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                I don't really know where you're coming from, but there is a big difference between dominant / subordinate and active / passive.

                'Instinctive male femininity' is nonsensical.

            2. rosariosblog profile image60
              rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              females can be dominant to other females too.  The gender dominance you can live with is what matters.

              1. camlo profile image83
                camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                There are so many things we all can do and be, and as long as we all like what we're doing and being, it doesn't really matter.

                1. rosariosblog profile image60
                  rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Well, exactly.

                2. 6 String Veteran profile image73
                  6 String Veteranposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Yeah, Aleister Crowley said that too, and he was a model citizen LOL

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              American Tigerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Outdated? You wish. Instincts may be muted ~slightly~ but they never die. Brenda's points are valid, and clear.

              Forgive me, ladies; I had no intention of posting here (because this is SO none of my business), I was following a thread and found this question fascinating. Evidently, for far different reasons than camlo did.

              1. camlo profile image83
                camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Instinctive male or female dominance is very rare in primates, and certainly does not exist in humans.

                Due to high intelligence, humans are able to adjust behaviour according to environment and circumstance.

                However, 'instinct' is often used as an excuse for many forms of behaviour, whether that 'instinct' exists or not (a man appointing himself head of the house, taking control of family members, demanding more food than the others, spending the money he earns for the family on booze for himself, inflicting sex on his woman whether she wants it or not ...).

                BTW, I too found the subject of this thread interesting, which is why I took a look. I replied to Brenda Durham's message, because I was curious to know exactly what she meant. It was her reply that led to something that actually belongs in another thread. Okay?

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                  American Tigerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  I never became a member of the All Men Suck consortium, so I find masculine instincts to be love, protection, providing, honoring, respecting and sacrifice for your family.

                  (Again; Please forgive my intrusion, ladies. I am still fascinated by your conversation.)

                  1. Cagsil profile image61
                    Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    Of course you wouldn't be part of the consortium of All Men Suck. You're a man. lol

                  2. camlo profile image83
                    camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    Well, that's interesting.

                  3. puebloman profile image61
                    pueblomanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    Hi Paper Tiger
                    Your entire sex life seems to be on line, where you´ll never have to use your wedding tackle. Am I right?

          2. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
            schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            why would a woman fear dominance from men? Not all men are dominant but you sure as heck seem it! lol

      2. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        But phobia is not an attraction. smile

      3. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
        schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        is that a new word? who are you?

    3. Trealmon profile image59
      Trealmonposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I might have to say the need of sensitivity.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I agree, and sensitivity covers a lot of aspects in life.

    4. tvpuram profile image56
      tvpuramposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      It is all in hormone

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think, women's hormones affect their style, their ways, manner of doing things; but it doesn't affect their intellect or decision making.

    5. Druid Dude profile image61
      Druid Dudeposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Obviously, dealings with lowly men.

    6. speedbird profile image60
      speedbirdposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      For some cultures it is considered a taboo for a woman to be attracted.  to another women. In any case why get attracted to same sex while the grass is always greener on the other side.   smile

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        speedbird that is your opinion.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

  2. optimus grimlock profile image53
    optimus grimlockposted 6 years ago

    nice curves, great smile and how she acts like a lady but has that look about her that lets you know shes ready smile

    1. rosariosblog profile image60
      rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      you got sex on your mind

    2. sofs profile image85
      sofsposted 6 years ago

      I think she may be after her clothes and jewelery .. lol lol

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        ooh that's being cynical!

      2. Eaglekiwi profile image71
        Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        And shoes smile

    3. Bill Manning profile image71
      Bill Manningposted 6 years ago

      My best friend is a lesbian and I've got a ton of lesbian friends. What they find attractive in another is the same variety of reasons straights go for.

      My good friend is a very petite, feminine girl who goes for the take charge type with a sporty, boyish figure.

      Yet in the bedroom she's the dominate one in a very big way, who knew! tongue

      1. Dave Barnett profile image54
        Dave Barnettposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        What attracts a woman to another woman? A man, of course! smile

        Adam was sittin' in the garden, thinking. He looked up, and said. "Dad? Why did you make women so beautiful?" Lord said "So that you would love them." Adam thought, then said, "Why did you make them so dumb?" And God said, "So that they might love you, too." (True Story)

        1. K9keystrokes profile image91
          K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          :-|

        2. rosariosblog profile image60
          rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          LOL

    4. K9keystrokes profile image91
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago

      Perfection would be brilliant, strong in mind and body, tall, redhead, and funny as heck! But, brains and strength top my list.

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      sandra rinckposted 6 years ago

      Too many worthless men?

      1. Dave Barnett profile image54
        Dave Barnettposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Women got smart first. It's in that book. You know....THAT BOOK!

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          sandra rinckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Okay sounds funny but I am missing something so you only get a lo. lol

          1. rosariosblog profile image60
            rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            HAHAHA!

        2. poonamhubshere profile image59
          poonamhubshereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          THAT BOOK___-------_____What? The politics of sexuality by K. Millet or Fear of Flying by that other woman......name escapes me........
          what is THAT book
          surely not TTTHHHAAAAAAAT book.

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            asliha.aliceposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I thing fashion can attract any man or women a good dress-up and make up is also attract other women good education and style also attract a lot..

            http://middleeast.co

    6. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago

      I'm not answering to this
      but I've noticed how stupid many of these replies are,
      most of them not answering the question--what attracts a woman to another woman! The question was to list facts
      not argue about who has heterophobia. What the heck kind of word is that? Who cares what people are?....is it us to judge? Do you judge EVERYONE by EVERYTHING? duh hmm lol lol

      1. camlo profile image83
        camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hmmm ... I didn't really want to get into that ... but I did.

        Wonder if 'heterophobia' is in the dictionary.

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
          schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          smile i wonder

          1. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
            schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Heterophobia describes reverse discrimination based on sexual orientation and implies an irrational fear of or aversion toward heterosexual people and institutions. Coined as a direct analogy to homophobia, "heterophobia" is used by some opponents[1][2] to various legal and civil rights for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people, when is used instead of heterosexism.[3]

            yeah like this is the reason people want to have sex with the same kind, to aggravate others neutral

            1. K9keystrokes profile image91
              K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              SGFR~ You rock sister! Keep smiling! smile

              1. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
                schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                wink

            2. camlo profile image83
              camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              It all makes SOOOOO much sense!

      2. Uninvited Writer profile image83
        Uninvited Writerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Brenda likes to justify her homophobia.

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          sandra rinckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I like your new picture UW! smile

          1. Uninvited Writer profile image83
            Uninvited Writerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Thanks smile

      3. poonamhubshere profile image59
        poonamhubshereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Okay. I'll tell you what attracts a woman to another woman, the woman.

        Simple.

        I like the way you look, talk. I make you laugh. We are open to our sexuality or decidedly gay.

        For me its red hair, for you its black frizzy, and the clothes and what's underneath.....well, we all weigh in differently there as well.

        1. rosariosblog profile image60
          rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          absolutely poonam.  But it's hard to find a redhead

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      sandra rinckposted 6 years ago

      I think what attracts women to other women has to do with being soft.

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        julie1234posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        The proper words and graceful manner, good costume, and kind personality will attract other women.

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          sandra rinckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          That too.

        2. K9keystrokes profile image91
          K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Nicely said Julie1234.

    8. Catering101 profile image58
      Catering101posted 6 years ago

      Probably the way she handles herself on tough and stressful situations, without pretending to be someone else.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, that's an attractive quality as well as endearing.

    9. Cheeky Girl profile image81
      Cheeky Girlposted 6 years ago

      Personality counts in a major way. Having many things in common. Sharing beliefs and ideas, and tastes...wow, there are so many things, I'd need a hub to ...sorry gotta go, just had a great idea for a hub! big_smile

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Great!  Please don't forget to post your hub URL here, Cheeky Girl?  Can't wait for it.

    10. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 6 years ago

      What attracts a woman to another woman?  Well now that I'm going through my 5th divorce, I'd say it's the fact that she's NOT A MAN!

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Love that one.

    11. WryLilt profile image88
      WryLiltposted 6 years ago

      Men: Would YOU be attracted to a muscled, basically straight up and down man compared to a voluptuous, long haired, curvy, busty woman?

      Enough said!

    12. TooEasy profile image59
      TooEasyposted 6 years ago

      The rope I tied them up with.

    13. Maria Cecilia profile image83
      Maria Ceciliaposted 6 years ago

      maybe when she finds her prettier than herself....? I am really attracted to one actress but I am very sure I am straight (LOL)

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        There's a difference between sexual attraction and just being interested in that person.. and that person can either be male or female.

      2. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Care to tell us who this actress is, Maria?  Hey here's a really hot love scene between 2 women, Jennifer Tilly and Gina Gershon in the movie called, Bound. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rhh2IFp6Ik  Enjoy

    14. Cheeky Girl profile image81
      Cheeky Girlposted 6 years ago

      On the surface it is her looks, her way of taking you in. Her reaction. But really it is her interest. It might be just friendship, or loneliness. It might be merely company of someone similar who can share some things, but not all things. She might be inexperienced and in the closet. She might need the different kind of friend who understands her and tolerates her habits and tendencies in the way that other people might be um...embarrassed or put off by. She would be attracted to any woman who fits the mold of an attractive and understanding woman who can sustain her deep feelings and desires. She might also have little experience and craves the protective friendship of a stronger woman who has the confidence that she lacks but could learn about, safely.

      Women can have gay woman friends who they may never have gay relationships with and can instead - just have crushes. Women can have women friends who are simply true platonic friends, and sexuality never arises. Some women love having gay women friends and yet give no thought to what goes on below a woman's waistline. Some will run a mile from a full-on lesbian, but be okay around the more straight-acting type of gay woman. It is a million things perhaps. Women are just amazing. Anyone who has read a small number of my hubs will have some idea. The thing is, not to be scared or afraid of it, or think that it's alien love or whatever. For some women, life is torture and lacking any personal fulfillment - or feel like "Hell" for them till they meet that one person who suddenly makes them realise who they have always been - but had simply denied or suppressed it. Finding someone who is loving and understanding can mean all the difference in life, for a woman or a man.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Women are truly complex beings.  I like your insights Cheeky Girl.. very interesting.

    15. Julie2 profile image59
      Julie2posted 6 years ago

      Lets see... I have had a few female crushes in my day. I have admired their natural beauty, lips and the eyes, its always the eyes.

      Shannon Tweed, early 90's watching her adult B movies

      Gina Gershon, ever since I saw her in Showgirls in '95

      Angelina Jolie, ever since I saw her in Firefox in '96 - present

      I know I missed someone. I will have to ask my husband! lol

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol Julie.  Crushes can have possibilities..... and tendencies

        1. Julie2 profile image59
          Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I know! ... lol

      2. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Julie2  Here's a love scene between Jennifer Tilly and Gina Gershon in the movie called, Bound made in 1996.  It's a short version of it though.  It's so hot.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rhh2IFp6Ik

        1. Julie2 profile image59
          Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Honey are you serious?! That is my all time favorite lesbian seen! Too Late! LMAO but I'll watch it again anyway lol Oh yeah tongue

          1. rosariosblog profile image60
            rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Life is good!!

    16. Pearldiver profile image87
      Pearldiverposted 6 years ago

      So there's far more to it than just the envy of her friend having wholesale accounts for shoes and handbags? roll

      1. sofs profile image85
        sofsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol  lol

      2. Julie2 profile image59
        Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Love your profile pic Pearldiver! smile

    17. Daniel Carter profile image88
      Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago

      What causes a woman attracted to a woman?

      Genes. And they must fit very tight and the body must have all the right curves...

      wink

      1. Julie2 profile image59
        Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I am lovin' this Daniel lol

        That's how you bring Sexy Back!!!! smile

      2. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I like that one

    18. Scarlett Black profile image78
      Scarlett Blackposted 6 years ago

      On first glance a pretty but boyish.  One who is gay.  Gay women have a fabulous vibe.  Mix that with boyish and pretty and chemistry.... it is a hit!

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Friction creates heat - it gets very very hot!

      2. Julie2 profile image59
        Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I soooo agree Scarlett! tongue

    19. Loveslove profile image52
      Lovesloveposted 6 years ago

      I have lots of women friends but Im not attracted to them in a sexual way..why? because I am a sexy woman give me a sexy man any day...although I must say that I have been told the ultimate sexual  experience  for a womam is with another woman..aparantly women know just where a woman likes to be touched ...well,taking that into consideration,so does my man so I wil stick to him for now !!

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Loveslove, you never know when that time will come.  Just be open for it

        1. Loveslove profile image52
          Lovesloveposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          No way.....I love my hubby...it was just an observation on my part

    20. tritrain profile image74
      tritrainposted 6 years ago

      Women are less lumpy.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, and less pushy.

        1. Julie2 profile image59
          Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I don't know about that rosario, some can get a bit pushy, obsessive and very jealous. Some become stalkers too! sad SCARY

          One of the reasons why I chose to be with a man...

          1. rosariosblog profile image60
            rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            You're referring to those lesser forms of humans  Julie2 :-))

            1. Julie2 profile image59
              Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Yes I am, I AM! ughhhhhhh LOL smile

            2. gguy profile image59
              gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Why not have one of each so you can have the best of both worlds? We usually don't mind!! LOL

              1. Julie2 profile image59
                Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Been there, done that, over it. Thats where the stalker came into play gguy! LOL tongue

                1. gguy profile image59
                  gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  OOHH, women are sooo evil!!! LOL

                  1. Julie2 profile image59
                    Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    AHHHHH HAAAAAA! and you love us for it! lol

                    1. gguy profile image59
                      gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      Yes we do!!! Check out my controversial views on where the sexes are headed on my hub, your comments are appreciated!!

                2. gguy profile image59
                  gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Only tried once? what happened to Once, Twice, Three Times A Lady? as the song goes!!!  LOL

                  1. Julie2 profile image59
                    Julie2posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    That was my G-rated version of the events! LOL

                    1. gguy profile image59
                      gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      I might be cool, but you are soooo hot!!! LOL

    21. proton66 profile image61
      proton66posted 6 years ago

      Nice cunt!

    22. mummibear profile image60
      mummibearposted 6 years ago via iphone

      Bastard men??

    23. WuldUStilRemebrMe profile image61
      WuldUStilRemebrMeposted 6 years ago

      Whose Al Gore? And that Obama guy? I have to look around a bit more. I can't believe how things have changed.  Where's the sun?  There's too much snow! Where's my shovel?

    24. WuldUStilRemebrMe profile image61
      WuldUStilRemebrMeposted 6 years ago

      Long live rock and roll!

    25. profile image0
      zampanoposted 6 years ago

      maybe what attracts a woman to another is just the lack of charming, seductive, intelligent man.
      As far as I'm concerned, I am deeply sorry...
      Mea culpa, mea maxima culpa. smile

      1. Joy56 profile image60
        Joy56posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Got it in one, hi zampano, i spelt your name right for once.....

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          zampanoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          So, is that you ?

          1. Joy56 profile image60
            Joy56posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            the avatar, i wish..........

            1. profile image0
              zampanoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I mean the poetess I so often enjoyed

    26. profile image0
      ralwusposted 6 years ago

      the smells

    27. Don Ship profile image65
      Don Shipposted 6 years ago

      There is no denying that men are attracted to beautiful women. Maybe it's just the same thing that attracts women to other women too? big_smile Or maybe not? yikes

    28. profile image0
      Neville Walkposted 6 years ago

      Because other women will ulways put the toilet seat down and rarely attempt to set light to their farts. Apparently women don't find this attractive.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Well, we can say the same about men: Do men ordinarily set light on their own farts?  lol  Fortunately men only are stereotyped for these kinds of jokes.  Rightly so, it would be grossly impolitely for human beings to make jokes about women giving birth for example.  Which reinforces the reason why woman to woman love and attraction is so pure and genuine.  As they say, you can critique a person or their work if you're an expert at it.

        1. gguy profile image59
          gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Rosario, luckily because of Female influence we have cleaned up our act a bit. I do want your opinion on something. As a guy I have the mind set that males are typically straight or gay, while women have a much higher chance of being bisexual. What do you think? Thanks, Gary

          1. rosariosblog profile image60
            rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Is that a fact Gary? If your statistics are correct, I'd say, because women have children.  And men don't.  A woman with a child, lesbian or not, automatically puts the male element in the equation.   So if the woman is lesbian, she is forever classed bisexual, since she cannot hide the fact that she had sex with a man.  Whereas, a man could have had hundreds of homosexual partners and no one would necessarily know.

            1. gguy profile image59
              gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I don't know if it's a fact, just looking for opinions. Very good points!!! I just feel that If a guy has relations with both men and women, the women is quite often there for social reasons, while women may feel strongly for both genders, but I could be totally wrong since this scenario is a turn on for a lot of us guys, my opinions could be skewed. Please don't consider this an insult in any way.

          2. WendyU profile image59
            WendyUposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I think your question asks more about the male mindset than about bisexuality. smile

            I want to say first of all that I am not a man-basher. I LOVE men. To a fault, even. They're amazing and I could NOT live without them. Seriously. And I know a lot of people assume someone who is bi is equally attracted to both genders. I am NOT. I lean very heavily toward the male side as far as preference goes. Men are great.

            HOWEVER.

            Most men (I'm generalizing) seem to have very close-minded views on sexuality, whether it be hetero, homo, or bi. Most men assume a man is either gay or straight, and assume a woman is bi. This is why men seem to be shocked and totally disbelieving when women aren't interested in MFF threesomes. It is assumed we are all into women, maybe because women (generalizing again) have no problem with openly expressing affection (if we hug another woman, obviously we want to have sex with her, right?).

            I think that as much as I respect and love and adore men, I see them (GENERALLY and in reference to hetero men) as very narrow-minded, and usually extremely resistant to even considering that not all women are bisexual or are even willing to go there "just to try it".

            Also, I know the assumption most people have (and woman think this too) is that men CAN'T be bisexual. It is assumed that if a man has sex with another man, he HAS to be gay. That the sex he also has with women is fake.

            I think it comes down to whether or not you choose to believe the "popular" opinion (which, in my opinion, is usually wrong) or explore the issue and look for facts.

            The fact is, both men and women can be bisexual. Both men and women can be homosexual. Both men and women can be heterosexual. And I don't think that one or two experimental encounters determines sexual orientation. If it did, almost every single straight person EVER would be gay or bisexual and almost every single gay person EVER would be straight.

            1. gguy profile image59
              gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Wendy, thank you for your reply, I am going to make it brief because I type slowly, and am leaving for a meeting, I am sorry if I insulted you in any way, You are right that generally, we men don't know enough about women, but we do learn by asking questions. I have always believed there is no such thing as a stupid question, it's only stupid not to ask questions. I don't think you are a man basher, and I am not at all a women basher. Please chech out my hub when you have some time, I am new at this, so please be patient. Perhaps we will talk again soon, and enjoy the rest of your day!!

            2. rosariosblog profile image60
              rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              So true especially the last paragraph, Wendy.  I admit my previous comment was very specific, not to mention has a couple of typos which I can't figure out how to delete.  Thank you for elaborating, expressing your thoughts about this most interesting topic.

    29. WendyU profile image59
      WendyUposted 6 years ago

      Hmmm...interesting thread. It's funny how it went all heterophobic/homophobic instead of just exploring the myriad of answers to the question. If the question had been "What attracts a woman to a man?" or "what attracts a man to a woman?", sexual orientation would not have come into play. And then, if the question had been "what attracts a man to another man?", things would have gotten so very, very ugly.
      As a bisexual woman, I'm attracted to women for the same reasons I'm attracted to men; just the anatomical parts are different. I'm not looking for marriage or commitment, so maybe I don't know anything tongue but if I'm attracted to a man, it's an attraction--primarily physical, at least in the beginning--based on the aspects of his looks that appeal to me. I don't have a "type" or a list of standards or anything, and often I'm surprised at what attracts me.
      The same is true for my attraction to a woman.

      1. gguy profile image59
        gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Wendy, whats your opinion on my question above? Thank You for your time and thoughts. Gary

      2. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        WendyU says "often I'm surprised at what attracts me".  That is a very interesting thing to say 'cause as with myself, well, I've always been sure of what I wanted and with whom I'm attracted to.  I am attracted to the feminine gender.  Once I was even attracted to a feminine performer who I discovered later was a gay guy..  But that's what I mean, I am attracted to gender, not the physical per se.  So you could say, I am mentally a lover of femininity, if that makes sense.

        1. gguy profile image59
          gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you, makes a lot of sense, please don't think I am even suggesting that all women some how need a man emotionally. We should all do what works for us. As you know some of my views may stir up some controversy!!  Have a great day!!

        2. gguy profile image59
          gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Rosario, just wanted to add that it's great that you know what you want. Hope it's working well for you!!

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            rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Knowing what I want does not mean, it's always working for me.  This is where everyone is the same, no matter your sexual preference, you still have to move on and go with the flow.  guyy, great T-shirt designs!!  Why don't you sell them on Facebook.  See Cheeky Girl's article on how to do it.

            1. gguy profile image59
              gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Rosario, good point, in some ways, the more different we are, the more we are the same. thanks for your compliment and pointers on my shirts, I'll check it out later!

            2. gguy profile image59
              gguyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Hey, thanks for the cheekygirl sugestion, she is awsome!!!

              1. rosariosblog profile image60
                rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Yes she certainly is guyy.  Let's make sure the word get's around.

    30. Talia0326 profile image56
      Talia0326posted 6 years ago

      It all depends on who that woman is attracted to. There are so many things that women seem to become to attracted too when it comes to falling for the same sex. We see alot of things that we like because we are used to the same features. smile

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Opposites attract, and so do very similar people.  It's great when we find the right balance and the right "feel".   Sometimes it takes a while to discover that, and at other times, it's instant.

    31. Trsmd profile image58
      Trsmdposted 6 years ago

      In my view.. a female hubber can answer this better..

    32. ladytfromtheqc profile image57
      ladytfromtheqcposted 6 years ago

      I am straight, but I have several lesbian friends. What makes a woman attractive, is confidence, not arrogance. I connect with women on many levels. Kids, career interests, food, spirtuality, relationships.

      My friends are unique like me. They have many things to offer by way of friendship and love. If I were a man, what attracts me to a lady would be her personality, appearance, demeanor, their ability to carry themselves in conversation. Of course how loyal and trustworthy they are.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Arrogance is never an attractive characteristic.  I guess you don't have to be a man to be attracted to those positive characteristics that you mentioned.  Attraction does not have to refer to sexual attraction all the time.  Liking, noticing or simply observing are, in a sense, a form of attraction.  Positive connections are great in all forms.

    33. Ashantina profile image60
      Ashantinaposted 6 years ago

      It is kinda interesting that most of the people who intentionally strayed thru here intentionally bypassed the question.. Pls keep it real folks!
      Well, I've never been with a woman but I have been attracted.. I'm comfortable with this and I am not a label.
      So what is/would be the attraction for me..? Plain and simple: CHEMISTRY.
      It needs no further explanation.

    34. prettydarkhorse profile image62
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

      I don't know but maybe grace, simplicity and beauty at first, then to make it "stay" - an ounce of compatibility is needed

    35. LisaLovesIt profile image58
      LisaLovesItposted 6 years ago

      The first thing I look at when I meet another woman is her eyes. The eyes have it all. The rest of the body is like an afterthought, generic at best. I notice too if she has laughlines around her eyes and mouth. A positive attitude and a great sense of humor go a very long way to encourage a healthy relationship. At a distance, I watch how she moves to learn if she has grace, and poise--a sense of style, or is instead a clumsy duck. I prefer either swans or tigers. This is what attracts (or repels) this woman to another woman.

      1. rosariosblog profile image60
        rosariosblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        It's really nice to hear your ideas and tastes everyone.  Smiles to you Lisa...  I'd like to share a video with you from Fingersmith http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQfvvbgu … re=related  .  I think this love scene with Elaine Cassidy is just so hot, I just have to share it with you guys in this thread.  smile

    36. Maria Cecilia profile image83
      Maria Ceciliaposted 6 years ago

      I know I am straight and had fallen in love to opposite sex several times, but there are women that I really admire.
      I like this lady because she is pretty, the longer you look at her the more you see beauty in her... young women that dances gracefully also attracts me... knowing a pretty down to earth women really fascinated me... there's this one that I really like that an officemate often told I am a semi lesbian but I am sure I am not.. maybe I just like her type of beauty and what she is capable of doing...

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      IMSansRegretsposted 6 years ago

      Fist of all, let me declare that I consider myself straight. Any long term relationship I have, I wish to have with a man. With that said, I have a strong sexual attraction to women as well as men. I like sex. I like all things sexual in nature. What I like in a woman? I like a woman who is confident but not overbearing, beautiful and feminine. I like great tits, and I like her to have curves. But the most important thing to me is that she be comfortable with her body, and comfortable with mine. Any time I picture myself in a threesome situation, of just solo with another woman, she is very into bringing me pleasure, and happy to let me return the favor. As far as being attracted to women outside of the sexual parameters, I like the same things in women that I like in men: Honesty, sense of self, intelligence and confidence, but above all, kindness in all actions.

     
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