Why some marriages go wrong even with super two people together?
I see beautiful people get married. They are beautiful, educated, everything you needs in a marriage is there for them. But after some years of life together, they seems to loose the original value they had for one another. Why?
I think it all boils down to a lack of communication between the two people involved. We get busy with our lives and forget to talk to one another, before long we discover that each of us has changed, moving in different directions, with different wants and needs.
Marriage is something that put a lot of stress on the thought process and problem solving mental process. Problems that people who are not married would sort out because they don't want to loose there partners, is met with is finality of , "is this what I'm going to have to deal with for the rest of my life", which is not usually communicated and that where a married couple would then drift apart. The way people think, and process problems plays a big parts in break up. Men and women process things differently so there is the need for good communication or greater understanding of your partner.
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Lets face it , its about commitment , once the heat of the love phase is over its about compatability. Even the most beautiful looking couple with all the right parts fall out of 'heat' there has to be something left to work with , All eyes all too quickly start looking elsewhere , Instant gratification takes over for one or the other!
Marriage means a lot of work, people often get into marriages with a lot of illusions and high expectation..they often leap into it totally unprepared, mentally and emotionally. I just wrote a piece on it from personal experience, check it out
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I've been married 33 years and still haven't the answer to a sucessful marriage...but I believe one of the reasons which helps you, is always try to share....our worries,our hopes,our joy. I paint and draw...my wife has no interest in that,..I fish now and then...again,my wife has no interest....I have an allotment....again , no interest....I go hill walking,and used to go wild camping...no interest!! We can be so very different from each other,yet we love one another...and THAT is the very thing which keeps us together through the years. After the rows,the pain,the burdens of life...love for each other holds us together and in turn,helps us solve problems that life throws at us. So my one piece of advice...let love (if you have it for each other in the first place) be your strength.Allow each other to be as different as they wish...we all need our own space....but remember the love you first felt for the other...it doesn't go away...not if you don't want it to!!
I think marriage asks for more than just beautiful people together. Marriage seeks for humility and empathy.
If a marriage relationship is built on what each can expect from the other then it is going to be problematic.
However, those relationships based on giving what you enjoy to the other and receiving what the other likes to give you, then the relationship is a strong one. Expectations from the other makes your relationship fragile as you have no control.
Then compatibility should not be based on expectations from others, but in being who you actually are.
Often times they really did not get to know one another, most of it was physical attraction and not spiritual and emotional attraction. I have found that before I married when i met with a guy who was soring high with education, looks, and other physical things that we are attracted to I did not get into his person and find out who he really was. This is true of those you speak of . It takes time to get to know someone you can't rush in. If you can spend one year really getting to know someone with out all the physical, you will find out if this person is really for you. There is more to a relationship than sex and money. Which is later one of the reasons people fall out over. Pay attention to each others values and you will find out what you are worth.
Well it depends on what is SUPER. Yes they may be beautiful, have a big house, have money, land, cars etc. But the real beauty is inside my dear (good character) , people get marry for all sought of wrong reasons sometimes they may just seem to be in love and if they are not it will never work. Sometimes it is lust that motivate them and when it is fulfilled they no longer have , what they taught they had. Once they love one another they'll get through their good and bad times. Too many times men look for pretty women. Which most pretty women and handsome men have the nastiest ways .
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