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   SarahKathleenposted 14 years ago

   Well is guy i had been with for a long time well he left me for a girl who has a baby and...
   
   everything was going good and this was his bestfriends girl so they wernt friends anymore and  me and him talk sometimes we hang out and its fine its fun and then its just not he goes to her and i love him but i want things to work out can you help me !!

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   michael's sonposted 14 years ago

   If you love something, set it free. If it returns to you it is yours, if not then it was never meant to be. everything happens for a reason. if you truly love him then you will respect his wishes. A relationship is a two lane road, whether that relationship be family, friend, or personal. what i am trying to say is if it isn't meant to be it isn't meant to be if it is he will come back but if not and things aren't working out you cannot obsess over it because for it to work out both people have to want it to. here is a prayer i learned in an AA meeting i attended (no i am not an alcoholic lol)
   it is called the prayer of serenity and i believe it goes something like this:
   
   God grant me the strength to change the things i can change, the serenity to accept the things i cannot, and the wisdom to know the difference.
   
   whether this works out or not is out of your control and that's just the way life is sometimes as harsh as it sounds. I wish it were different I really do. I have been in a situation somewhat similar to yours before and it sucks it really does but the best thing to do is to talk about it with someone you trust so you can find out how you truly feel about the situation and so you can come to accept it.

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   chrisaltamiranoposted 14 years ago

   I'm not too religious but I can rlate to what Michael's son is saying. However there comes a time when you have to cut your losses and move on. God didn't put 6.7 billion people on this earth for you to get strung up on one person. Explore, find out what's out there.
   
   If he's going to go ahead and date his bestfriends girl, then obviously he's not a good friend in that sense. Then on top of that he goes off and is with another girl? Move along.
   
   Your love is an investment, it makes no sense to keep investing your love in the same guy when there's no return.

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