How much cross-dressing is acceptable in a marriage relationship?
Please indicate what your personal line of boundary would be. When would it be necessary to end a relationship? What is permissible and what is too much?
When other people see it, that's the boundary I guess. Interesting question. .
I started to say that for me it would be zero and then I remember how a female friend and I had attempted to go to a holloween party as bride and groom. She as the groom and me as the bride. I then attempted to justify this with the statement that what I was doing was just for fun. That led to this question...did I really think fun wasn't the same reason those who practice cross dressing do so? That one made me say, I wish I could just give me a simple answer once in awhile.
Differing time frames in the relationship, would lead to a different sort of question and purpose for the question. If it was early in the relationship it would be an attempt to discover if there was a mutual interest in a subject that is important to you. If it is later in the relationship I would assume that you already know the answer to the question. You are simply taking a stand and trying to discover what future the relationship has.
This will work at either point in a relationship in my opinion.
Prior to next halloween you can suggest a couple's costume that involves cross dressing by both and any objections voiced, won't be of a threatening nature. If your partner is willing to dress for halloween and go into public with you, chances are that some private shows could be a real possibility.
Well your partner should be the one to tell you how much cross dressing is acceptable.
I'd be ok with mine doing it once just for curiosity, but more than that would piss me off.
The may be need to see the case may be, if I love him, may be necessary to a deeper level of acceptance?
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How much is not an easy question to answer. The thing I find difficult is the word permissable. Should the crossdressing partner have to ask permission? Also the question of when would it be necessary to end a relationship? why should crossdressing mean that it was necessary to end a relationship. Is it on par with wife beating?
Please remember that there is a huge difference between transvestism and transexualism and many shades between the two. If a transexual, then I would think it reasonable to end the relationship with that knowledge or maybe change the type of relationship, i.e from partner to friend. In the case of a transvestite where ther is no desire to change sex, need it be an issue? I suppose for Christian fundamentalism it could be an issue, but how many people live entirely by St Pauls letters to the Corinthians? should all Christian ladies have their hair shorn for not having their heads covered in church for instance.
I feel that this could really be a case of personal feelings, fear, anger or maybe prejudice. Sitting on the other side of the fence my perception is obviously different. I would be happy to give a more personal insight or expand on my answer if you wish to contact me. I understand from experience that many ladies have are worried about this issue.
You're right girlwithin 'permissible' is a loaded term which has connotations of morals.
Yet I was asking what different partners would consider 'permissible' in their own opinion. Obviously I would guess that in your opinion any cross-dressing activity right up to continual cross-dressing in the opposite gender role (transvestitism) would be 'permissible' as you do not see it in any way jeopodising the relationship. Am I right?
However, I do not agree that this would be the case for many other partners. Cross-dressing often does jeaopodise the gender roles in a relationship.
I also disagree with your statement that a 'transvesite has no desire to change'. Certainly at some point in their life they may not have the desire for SRS but the stability of this desire of later wanting to change their body (if they had the financial resources to do so) is not reliable.
We all bring a personal element into our answers, this is unavoidable because we have different personal agendas, ideals and morals. What I was trying to discover is what partners would consider 'acceptable' or 'liveable' with and what would be the line of boundary?
For example: cross-dressing with female panties under a suit does probably not seem that threatening, but cross-dressing in female lingerie during intimate relationships would probably be considered VERY threatening to most partners.
It is this degree of 'appropriateness' or 'acceptability' that I was interested in hearing from others.
Thanks for your input.
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