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How much cross-dressing is acceptable in a marriage relationship?

  1. GaeHall profile image61
    GaeHallposted 7 years ago

    How much cross-dressing is acceptable in a marriage relationship?

    Please indicate what your personal line of boundary would be.  When would it be necessary to end a relationship?  What is permissible and what is too much?


  2. Right On Time profile image61
    Right On Timeposted 7 years ago

    When other people see it, that's the boundary I guess. Interesting question.                             .

  3. Stump Parrish profile image60
    Stump Parrishposted 7 years ago

    I started to say that for me it would be zero and then I remember how a female friend and I had attempted to go to a holloween party as bride and groom. She as the groom and me as the bride. I then attempted to justify this with the statement that what I was doing was just for fun. That led to this question...did I really think fun wasn't the same reason those who practice cross dressing do so? That one made me say, I wish I could just give me a simple answer once in awhile.

    Differing time frames in the relationship, would lead to a different sort of question and purpose for the question. If it was early in the relationship it would be an attempt to discover if there was a mutual interest in a subject that is important to you. If it is later in the relationship I would assume that you already know the answer to the question. You are simply taking a stand and trying to discover what future the relationship has.

    This will work at either point in a relationship in my opinion.

    Prior to next halloween you can suggest a couple's costume that involves cross dressing by both and any objections voiced, won't be of a threatening nature. If your partner is willing to dress for halloween and go into public with you, chances are that some private shows could be a real possibility.

  4. Iontach profile image85
    Iontachposted 7 years ago

    Well your partner should be the one to tell you how much cross dressing is acceptable.
    I'd be ok with mine doing it once just for curiosity, but more than that would piss me off.

  5. loseyhenli profile image57
    loseyhenliposted 7 years ago

    The   may be need to see the case may be, if I love him, may be necessary to a deeper level of acceptance?
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  6. girlwithin profile image58
    girlwithinposted 6 years ago

    How much is not an easy question to answer.  The thing I find difficult is the word permissable.  Should the crossdressing partner have to ask permission?  Also the question of when would it be necessary to end a relationship? why should crossdressing mean that it was necessary to end a relationship.  Is it on par with wife beating?

    Please remember that there is a huge difference between transvestism and transexualism and many shades between the two.  If a transexual, then I would think it reasonable to end the relationship with that knowledge or maybe change the type of relationship, i.e from partner to friend.  In the case of a transvestite where ther is no desire to change sex, need it be an issue?  I suppose for Christian fundamentalism it could be an issue, but how many people live entirely by St Pauls letters to the Corinthians?  should all Christian ladies have their hair shorn for not having their heads covered in church for instance.

    I feel that this could really be a case of personal feelings, fear, anger or maybe prejudice.  Sitting on the other side of the fence my  perception is obviously different.  I would be happy to give a more personal insight or expand on my answer if you wish to contact me.  I understand from experience that many ladies have are worried about this issue.

  7. GaeHall profile image61
    GaeHallposted 6 years ago

    You're right girlwithin 'permissible' is a loaded term which has connotations of morals. 

    Yet I was asking what different partners would consider 'permissible' in their own opinion.  Obviously I would guess that in your opinion any cross-dressing activity right up to continual cross-dressing in the opposite gender role (transvestitism) would be 'permissible' as you do not see it in any way jeopodising the relationship.  Am I right?

    However, I do not agree that this would be the case for many other partners.  Cross-dressing often does jeaopodise the gender roles in a relationship.

    I also disagree with your statement that a 'transvesite has no desire to change'.  Certainly at some point in their life they may not have the desire for SRS but the stability of this desire of later wanting to change their body (if they had the financial resources to do so) is not reliable.

    We all bring a personal element into our answers, this is unavoidable because we have different personal agendas, ideals and morals.  What I was trying to discover is what partners would consider 'acceptable' or 'liveable' with and what would be the line of boundary?

    For example:  cross-dressing with female panties under a suit does probably not seem that threatening, but cross-dressing in female lingerie during intimate relationships would probably be considered VERY threatening to most partners.

    It is this degree of 'appropriateness' or 'acceptability' that I was interested in hearing from others.

    Thanks for your input.

  8. freecampingaussie profile image60
    freecampingaussieposted 5 years ago

    I NEVER  want to see my husband in any female clothes EVER

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      good girl 2014posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Am full time girl  time  been   t-girl for long my wife help and I have lovely Mother-In-Law how help to my wife work as nurse work long hours so my mother-in-Law take care of me we go out lots shopping and girl day  out

  9. marsar16 profile image62
    marsar16posted 4 years ago

    It is ok as I crossdressed during my marriage.

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      good girl 2014posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I  Am crossing girl and dress ful time my wife help lot but she work long hours so my mother-In-Law take care of and dress me in classic clothes skirt blouse cardigan and noylon overall she take me out shopping AM  very feminine girl  love being girl

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    good girl 2014posted 4 years ago

    hi am man like to dress in women clothes so my wife and mother-In-Law help to be women thay dress me in blouse skirt cardigan and have wear nolyon overall all time AM in houes or shopping thay very to me my wife work hours so my mother-in-Law take care of me take out shopping we have lovely girles day out so when we  out shopping today she buy me nice nightdress and cardigan to wear in bed I have to wear do what my mother-in-Law tell me too do she   I have  to be bath before bed than dress me in nightdress cardigan and put me to bed at 7pm I can only got online for 30min thay do not  shy girllike me go on compute as am still very shy girl my mother-in-Law  like watch television programma like Emmerdale EastEnder ccoronation Street

    so have be good girl be bath put night clothes  pink nightdress and blue cardigan will keep me warm in bed I have been not be well so my wife call  her mother to see if been very good girl  my mother-in-Law keep say litter girl been in bed at
    7 pm not later AM happy with that  so do not get lots time go online if thay new very shy girl was in computer be very nuagth for me will have  to stay in for week I do look  very feminine girl love dress in older girl clothes I have to look like  a 52 Year old women have be good and not be  naughty girl  thay do not like me see bad thing on tv or online   wife is working late to night
    she call my mother-in-Law at 7-30pm to  see if am in bed being good girl so am very happy hope to out shopping with my lovely Mother-In-Law  wear new birthday prent blouse skirt cardigan nolyon overall and my wife New camel coat   hope can be friend in here  please do not tell my livery wife or mother-in-Law I have been on online thank you God bless you all good  nite. xx