What if any, do you think are unforgivable in a marriage relationship?

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   ComfortBposted 7 years ago

   What if any, do you think are unforgivable in a marriage relationship?

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   Each of us is entitled to have our boundaries and "deal breakers".
   I've come to learn there is no such thing as a "universal deal breaker". Whatever you or I could come up with there is someone right now living under those conditions who has no plans whatsoever of leaving!
   Cheating, verbal/physical abuse, alcohol/drug addiction, criminal behavior, constant arguing, stealing money, long-term sexual & affection neglect are among my deal breakers.
   Many believe marriage is "hard work". I believe finding the "right mate" to marry is the really "hard work". If you able to do so then it means you've found someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the marriage that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
   Any so called "work" under those circumstances is a "labor of love".
   “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown

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   moonlakeposted 7 years ago

   Married to someone like Jared Fogle. This would be unforgivable to me. I would run from this marriage and never look back.

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      fpherj48posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Moon, Now there's a perfect response. I can't even imagine what this woman is thinking & feeling.What an explosive bomb to deal with. Frankly, his face was on the news & I had to LOOK AWAY.He sickens me beyond description. I feel for his fami

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      Express10posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      She did the right thing...filed for divorce immediately.

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   Express10posted 7 years ago

   There are many unforgivable actions that are committed in marriages and other monogamous relationships. Some common things include cheating (emotional, physical, etc.), undisclosed or hidden criminal activities, verbal or physical abuse, and when the other spouse is not pulling their weight whether it be financially, romantically/sexually, or with household chores and maintenance.
   
   I believe that if you have a spouse who repeatedly does something you have made clear that you don't want done or vice versa, they simply don't care and it is up to you whether you are okay with having your boundaries crossed and your standards ignored. Sadly, I've found many people are okay with this type of marriage or relationship.

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Very true!
      Lots of people fear moving on or are willing to stay in loveless marriages in order to avoid becoming a divorce statistic. A divorce is a public admission a person made a mistake with mate selection.  Human beings make mistakes!

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      ComfortBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Forgiveness-consider this...
      "Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times? Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." Matt.18:21-22

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes one has to forgive them self for choosing the wrong mate in the first place! Lots of people ignored the "red flags", their instincts, or even signs that God if they believe in him had given them. Not every marriage was "meant to be".

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      Express10posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I could not agree with you any more than I already do DashingScorpio. Some people stay for children showing them a bad example of a relationship, others may stay for financial or other reasons. It's sad to see these types of relationships.

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      ComfortBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      If the accused truly repents and turn around to doing right. All that you've mentioned are then forgivable.

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      fpherj48posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      In THIS particular case of Subway Jared......You find us a wife/woman who would continue to live with & crawl into bed with this piece of garbage, and you've found a bonfide psychopath   OR merely a simple Moron.  They have KIDS!!

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   jansharesposted 7 years ago

   Deception is a tough one. After you're deceived, it's a struggle to see the person in the same way and grow new trust. Regardless of the issue (infidelity, money, lies, etc.), deception makes one question who they are really married to and will they be deceived again.

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      ComfortBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you Ms. Janis. Deception is a tough one, but it's hardly unforgiveable. Once we get on the road to forgiveness, we learn to trust again.

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      fpherj48posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Point taken. HOWEVER, this is not mere "Deception!"  This is not a case of "Oh you naughty boy, you lied!"  The hard core reality is THIS IS A SICK, DEMENTED PEDOPHILE. Huge world of difference!  Please!

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      jansharesposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Oh most definitely, Paula. I was referring to deception in relationships in general, not to moonlake's response. With you on that one, dahling!

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