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Why does men have a hard time telling a woman that they like them when they are

  1. jagandelight profile image79
    jagandelightposted 7 years ago

    Why does men have a hard time telling a woman that they like them when they are attracted to them?

  2. profile image0
    hubpageswriterposted 7 years ago

    Mostly because they are fearful of being rejected.  Most men, if not all cannot take no for an answer, so that's why.  The fear of feelings not being reciprocated.

  3. arthurchappell profile image37
    arthurchappellposted 7 years ago

    It's difficult to sound sincere even when you are, needing to sound like it's specially for the lady in question and not just something you say to every attractive woman in the hope of gettingthem to dance, come on a date with you, etc

  4. theseus profile image80
    theseusposted 7 years ago

    I guess that's often the scenario for a guy who truly likes a girl:he gets timid and can't seem to find the words. The fear that the girl may not care as much, or at all, somehow makes it hard.

  5. ajuvr profile image67
    ajuvrposted 7 years ago

    'cause attraction is the reality and liking is not.

  6. Dave Mathews profile image61
    Dave Mathewsposted 7 years ago

    Besides the possibility of rejection I would fear a police charge of sexual harassment of the lady gets upset with what is said.

  7. cceerpp profile image57
    cceerppposted 7 years ago

    It takes a lot of courage to approach a lady and tell her such deep feelings and to be rejected can be one of the heaviest blows a man can take. Thanks.

  8. Ashantina profile image60
    Ashantinaposted 7 years ago

    Do they? I think this is a very generic statement/question, because for the majority I have not found this to be true.

  9. freedomfromfear profile image57
    freedomfromfearposted 7 years ago

    The only time I have a hard time doing anything is because I'm not aware of myself. If I can't say something, that is information for me. Fear of rejection could be what I believe is the hesitation, but I believe the more honest answer is "not getting what 'I' want". It is very scary for us to allow situations to play out without getting involved in "managing" them to turn out for "our" own fulfillment. If I felt good about myself, rejection wouldn't be what we make it out to be....personal. Everyone gets to make their choices, if I'm not someone's choice, it might not be what "I" wanted, but if I felt loved, then rejection wouldn't be the message of "I'm not good enough".

  10. framistan profile image58
    framistanposted 7 years ago

    When i was single many years ago... i learned quickly that as soon as you buy a lady flowers or anything, the relationship would end within one week.  NEVER NEVER NEVER buy your lady ANYTHING untill after you are married.  And be carefull of saying anything affectionate also. The reason is because men get dumped soon after any such occurance, and so learn to not do that anymore.

  11. rich_hayles profile image59
    rich_haylesposted 7 years ago

    Lack of confidence usually but many factor can come in to play. Potential repercussions have stopped me in the past.

  12. gachapoz profile image58
    gachapozposted 7 years ago

    It's probably not the main reason why, but if you think about it, when a male gets rejected THEY probably think their peers think of them as unattractive, and weak in the sense that they can't pair themselves up with a woman. When women get rejected however, their woman friends are much more supportive. Not saying that male friends can't be supportive, i just think that there's kind of more not-really-there- shame/disappointment to be felt when rejected if you are a male.

    And of course we have the whole "males can't express themselves as much." Which I've found true so far, i know a couple of very expressive male individuals, but the female count surpasses it easily.

    Fear of rejection, fear of putting what you want in the hands of someone else.

  13. luv2wander profile image56
    luv2wanderposted 7 years ago

    FEAR anyway u look at it it all comes down to FEAR unfortunately i was made to wear the pants when pants were made for work motorcycles n horseback riding. ive been told i have more balls then most men n thats just not right. men need to own up to being a man!

  14. Myra Tylor profile image56
    Myra Tylorposted 7 years ago

    Maybe they are afraid of being refused, I think.

  15. phoenix_028@yahoo profile image61
    phoenix_028@yahooposted 7 years ago

    Might be the vibe the woman is portraying. She might be seen as having too strong persona that its intimidating or the guy really has it bad that he is afraid to put a wrong foot forward