When a woman says no to an invitation for date why do men whine and beg to try t

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   Etherealenigmaposted 12 years ago

   When a woman says no to an invitation for date why do men whine and beg to try to get her to agree?
   
   Why do men attempt to use sympathy ploy to get a girl to go out with them? Don't they realize that if she's not into them maybe it's because they are not her type and that's not going to change?

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   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   i didn't know they did unless they are trying to look cute. i see women doing some pretty strange things for the reasons you stated, so i'm guessing it's just something some PEOPLE do.

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   wisdom25posted 12 years ago

   I believe there are 4 reasons:
   
   1. Some men don't like rejection.
   
   2. Some men are controlling and like things there way so the answer no is not in  their equation.
   
   3. Some women say no in an ignorant manner so the men get ignorant back.
   
   4. The last reason is some men are just plain ignorant.
   
   Just know that not all men whine and beg. If anything I see more women that whine and beg when I guy say no. But again not all women whine and beg either.
   Hope this help.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It seems you are not willing to concede the possibility that a man might think a particular woman is worth the effort to pursue a relationship with. Most (grown men) won't whine or beg though. As far as I know, nobody likes rejection. (men or women)

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      Etherealenigmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I appreciate dashing's answer, but in certain environments, you have to maintain a friendly attitude...like in a church setting. Therefore, it's much harder to give the firm answer he mentions below, without a greater measure of sensitivity.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Men see a (smile) as a ray of hope. The next time you say you aren't interested say it with a glare. Anyone who has hit on you multiple times deserves told to leave you alone. It's not what you say but how you say it that drives a point home.

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      wisdom25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Dashingscorpio I did leave that out. You are right! A man might think a woman is worth the effort to pursue a relationship with but you also have to take in consideration in how they are pursuing that woman.Most grown men are worst than the young boy

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      Etherealenigmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      After this guy began dropping hints, my gf started commenting on "how sweet" this guy was, & that I should give him a chance because you never know what the "gift of God" is packaged like. Personally, I believe God would bring me someone I'd like

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Historically society has taught men that women wanted to be "pursued" or "wooed". Thus came the notion of women "Playing hard to get." In a past era men would often send flowers, candy, a note, or even poetry in an attempt to perusade a woman to go out with them. Today we'd call those men (Stalkers) or we'd see their actions as "sexual harassment". The days of trying to "wear a woman down" until she said "yes" are pretty much gone.
   Most men walk away after getting a "firm rejection". Naturally if a woman comes off flirty while saying (no) this could leave the man to think there is still "a chance". How a woman says "no" usually determines whether a man continues to pursue her. Personally speaking if there is no mutual interest I move on.

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      Etherealenigmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You know, I think most women try to be polite, and even smile when they decline an invitation from a man. That's not flirty. However, it comes off as desperate when, after several "no's", they begin to beg. It actually becomes really annoying.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Etherealenigma, You make a good point about certain environments but a man has no business trying to pick up women in the church. A firm rejection does not have be a rude rejection. A stern face with a "I have no interest in getting to know you."

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      Etherealenigmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Dashing...that's what happened. I think you commented on my other question about do men pick women because they are nice. Both questions are related. A guy that my gf and I started talking to in the cafe at church, kept hinting that he liked me.

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   CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

   In my experience, only children whine and only dogs beg. No respectable man would employ these standards.

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      Etherealenigmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Amen to that!

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