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How to overcome a breakup relationship?

  1. lubima profile image55
    lubimaposted 7 years ago

    How to overcome a breakup relationship?

  2. legallchew profile image54
    legallchewposted 7 years ago

    Each person has his/her coping mechanism(s).

    personally, i change my cell number, delete my social networking account(s). as to completely remove the possibility of communicating with the person. as to forget the person as soon as possible.

  3. bellawritter23 profile image79
    bellawritter23posted 7 years ago

    Overcoming a breakup within a relationship does not happen over night! Time has to travel in order for a heart to heal. The healing process contains time. And time sometimes is all we have. First you need to find inner peace and understand that you make yourself happy. No one can foster happiness for you but you. I went through a divorce and 3 kids after 10 years and there was many monsters in my past that still haunt me and many lies placed by these monsters that dominate the mind.

    You have to see beyond the past and let go what ever is harboring within to start healing. I know you may think this is off the subject but it all factors in somehow. The drinking partying, and all that other fun stuff numbs the truth for a little itty bitty while but when you are all alone again then what happens sadness begind to fill the mind. Keep yourself active do things that make you happy! I hope this helped some what! And I hope you feel a little better after reading this

    all smiles smile

  4. IntuitiveMind profile image58
    IntuitiveMindposted 7 years ago

    I wish there were a simple, get rid of these feelings fast solution, but, there isn't.  The first thing is to acknowledge that you are in pain, that you are going through a break up, and that you need time to heal.  Many people say "time heals all wounds", but I believe it's not the "time" itself, but what you do with the time.  Take time to really look into the relationship and learn from it. Why didn't it work? Why did it work for as long as it did? Could I have done something different or could he have? What's most important to remember, is that you are not trying to "overcome" or get over your relationship.  You are simply closing one door and opening another.  Welcome your future and all the possibilities it holds.  Do what YOU need to do to feel better.  I was married for over 20 years when I got divorced.  At first, I was devastated and couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. But, with good friends, lots of reading, crying and writing - I managed to come away with some very valuable insight about relationships.  On those days you feel like just being alone to feel sad, then do it!  You can't ignore emotions and expect them to go away.  Experience it. And then you will find that you can move on. Focus more on yourself, and less on finding another relationship.  You have to love YOU before someone else can.