Age doesn't matter, but maturity and life stage does. In many cases, you have to have two people of similar age in order to have people who are in compatible stages in their life -- but not always. For instance, if you have one person who is in college who wants to spend time drinking and partying, they are not going to be a good match for the person who is ready to settle down and have kids -- or who might already have kids from a previous relationship.
Not everyone matches the average life stage for their age, and this is where age-gap relationships have a lot better chance of working. For instance, I met my husband in my early 20s. Unlike many people my age, I've never been a someone who likes to party or a casual dater, and I had a son from my first marriage. My husband was in his late 40s at the time, but unlike many men his age he loves small children and was willing to have another kid or two with me while helping me raise my son. Other men his age might not want the hassle of having a baby at that point in their lives (our daughter was born a couple months after his 51st birthday, his sixth and my second), and if that had been the case then he wouldn't have been a good match for me because I really wanted to have another kid. Likewise, if I had been wanting to drag him off to parties all the time or didn't want a serious relationship, then I would have been a bad match for him.
If you're interested, I have a couple of hubs on age-gap relationships, and trying to get a few more up, feel free to request hubs from me if there are other specific questions you'd like to see written about .
I wonder if the original poster is a teen. Often, teen girls are very attracted to 'older' guys, meaning she is 16 and he is 21, or thereabouts.
I fully understand why a teen girl would be attracted to a 21 year old guy: he has a job, money, a car, and experience. Many teen girls also say that guys their own age are not as mature as a 21 year old guy. Of course they are not, nor should they be.
My concern always is: why does 21 year old guy want to be around a 16 year old girl? Why can't he get a girl his own age? If he is hanging round 16 year old girls, he's not mature. Period.
Now, that is a six year age gap, but it's not the gap, you see, it's the relative ages of the participants. A twenty year old woman and a twenty six year old guy? No problem. THEY ARE BOTH ADULTS.
by Peeples 6 years ago
Are some age differences too much in relationships?I mean I know love is love, but what can a 40 year old possibly have in common with an 18 year old?
by Threekeys 2 years ago
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by Leaderofmany 8 months ago
At what age should people stop dating or should they continue to date until the final roll call?
by Sturgeonl 6 years ago
Do you think age difference matters in a relationship?
by choiceessentials 8 years ago
Of late, there seems to have a surge of older women with younger guys. Is there any thing wrong with that?Should the couple fear how others look at them?What is the acceptable age gap?Your views??
by plinka 5 years ago
Does a big age difference doom a relationship when the woman is older?Some people refers to younger men in such relationships as "toyboy lovers". Is it degrading or is it just exact? Is the age difference an obstacle in a relationship when the wife's age gap from her husband is great?
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