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Are gentlemen really a dying breed?

  1. aethelthryth profile image93
    aethelthrythposted 6 years ago

    Are gentlemen really a dying breed?

    I don't think gentlemen are a dying breed, just a small minority, who show up in greater numbers in high places because they are more able than other men to do the difficult thing.  In my single life, I dated 3 gentlemen, and married one of those, and am now raising 3 small boys to be gentlemen.  So the trait is being passed on.

  2. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    I do believe gentlemen are dieing out because of society and the ideals taught today. Most students in public and private schools have very few morals and discipline any more. They do not understand the concepts taught by their parents and start blasting foolish attempts against those methods.

  3. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    I think they are getting to be a smaller minority because they do not have good parents like you to teach those finer points to young men.

    Too often parents are so busy in life, they miss passing on those wonderful gentlemanly qualities.

    Children will rise to our expectations.  I think it is wonderful that you are raising your boys to be gentlemen.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    No. I don't believe gentlemen are a dying breed.
    With sexual equality the rules have changed.
    Chivalry for the most part was born out sexist attitudes.

    Gender rules have changed so much that (the safe thing for most men is to treat women exactly as they would other men.) Compliments/flirting can be construed as "sexual harrasement. "The Romantic Chase" today is called stalking.

    "Oftentimes when a man opens a door for women there are just as many who will NOT say, "thank you" as there are who will.

    Some in fact resent being "forced" to acknowlege an act of kindness from a strange man and they would rather open their own doors.
    If a man happens to say, "You're welcome!"  The woman is very likely to say, "I didn't ask you to open the door for me!" Once again instead of men trying to (guess) which women would welcome a gentleman and which would be offended, he chooses to just treat them like "equals".

    Personally speaking if I'm walking through a door and I sense someone is right behind me whether it be a woman or a man I'll reach back to keep the door open.

    The behavior of (modern men) has changed in response to the behavior of (modern women). It's a difficult balance to strike when someone wants to be treated as an "equal" and "special".
    We live in times where most people are only friendly or kind to someone of the opposite sex when they are "interested" in them.
    Some women automatically believe an unknown man is hitting on them if he smiles and greets them with a friendly "Hello", or "Good Morning". If the woman is NOT interested in him she will give him a look that could kill!
    It's a sign of the times! LOL!

  5. Midnight Oil profile image81
    Midnight Oilposted 6 years ago

    It's a case of social pressure not to be a gentleman these days and fit in the crowd (sheep), and many people (mostly males) think you are are slightly strange as you don't do what the others do.

    I have a son, yet despite knowing the traits of being a gentleman he chooses not to be one at the moment.  Only time will tell if he follow the ways of being a gentleman.

    As for females thinking you are being nice just so you can hit on them, I find the opposite to be true.  I get hit on all the time, several times a day if not more, and I can totally appreciate how an attractive woman feels with constant attention.  It can become annoying.

    Women actively pursue me daily.  Guys don't realise that the secret to getting a girl/woman is not daft chat up lines, spending hours in the gym to get a six pack or fast car - just be a gentlemen and you can have your pick of women. 

    And you don't even have to chase them, they come to you.  How many times have I heard from a female I have not seen before: 'Don't I know you for from where' or 'didn't we use to work together in the same company' and 'would you like to have a chat and a coffee somewhere' etc etc.

    Of course, I am happily married for 15 years, which seems to make it worse as I am impossible to get. Another secret, this time for the women out there.  Learn how French women act.  They marry simply for love, NOT money.  They really know how to look after the husbands.  I have been on a fifteen year honeymoon so far with my French wife and there is no signs yet of it slipping into mundane marriage.

  6. savvydating profile image97
    savvydatingposted 5 years ago

    Yes, gentlemen are dying in proportion to the amount of ladies who have died. Women insisted upon being "equal," when in fact, they had been "higher."  However, I have met gentlemen and I applaud their courage in opening doors for women who haven't the sense to be gracious or say, "Thank you.

  7. Djaak profile image37
    Djaakposted 5 years ago

    I am beginning to think so. I don't see many guys holding the door for a woman these days and almost nobody opens the car doors for their girlfriend anymore. I personally do, but that's just the way I was raised. My mom taught me to always make my girlfriend feel like she is the most important person in the world big_smile

    On the other hand, these days woman abuse that privilege and think they can just walk all over you. I had that problem in one of my first relationships because she felt that because I do everything for her she can just ask and I will do it. I solved that problem by telling my new girlfriend that I will treat her like a princess as long as she shows appreciates it and does not abuse it.

  8. JamesGrantSmith profile image61
    JamesGrantSmithposted 4 years ago

    Younger women don't want gentlemen, older women do.

    Younger women want flair, fun, banter, a challenge, a man to take control, all the things a true gentlemen could never give her.

 
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