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How do you deal with negative criticism?

  1. TheBlondie profile image59
    TheBlondieposted 7 years ago

    How do you deal with negative criticism?

  2. NateSean profile image75
    NateSeanposted 7 years ago

    It depends on what the criticsm is against. If the target is some aspect of my life that I could care less about, I let the criticsm slide because the person making the attack clearly has an affinity for making "straw men".

    If you criticize, say, my getting terminated from a job or the choices I have made in my life, then I'll go for the jugular.

  3. rhondakim profile image73
    rhondakimposted 7 years ago

    For me, it depends on who it's coming from, because that will usually tell me the person's intent.  If I believe it's coming from a bad place, I ignore it and move on the best I can; if it's from someone with good intentions, I really do try to get over my disappointment and focus on learning from it.  Some of the most successful people have benefited from constructive criticism.

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    You don't deal with it.........let the person that gave it deal with your I don't give a f*ck attitude about what you have to say.  You gotta either ignore it or laugh it off for what you have called it to be.  Negative criticism says so much about the individual, just run away like a child that is being abused!  Then again there are those that are in your life and has always been in your life (positively) that will give you constructive criticism, this you automatically will know.  It's a gut feeling that you KNOW that they have your best interest at heart!

    Frauds are so Repulsive...... Ugggh!  I'll compare them to a menstrual cramp (immediately out of no where)

    Vonda G. Nelson

  5. Matt in Jax profile image70
    Matt in Jaxposted 7 years ago

    If it's thought-provoking, absorb it and adjust from it.
    If the criticism is just blind hate, I ignore it.

  6. ikechiawazie profile image60
    ikechiawazieposted 7 years ago

    I usually concentrate on the message and do not bother about whether it is negative or positive. If its negative, i let it slide understanding that no human is perfect.

  7. sangre profile image95
    sangreposted 7 years ago

    Create an invisible barrier between yourself and that negative person. Unless it's positive criticism, ignore it. There's nothing worst than someone who thinks they know what their talking about but they don't. Ignore, Ignore, Ignore.

  8. DonDWest profile image61
    DonDWestposted 7 years ago

    I don't deal with it at all. Most often it comes from a position of ignorance. Just because that way of doing something worked for you, doesn't mean it will work for me. This idea of fitting all people in a neatly assorted shoe-box has got to stop.

  9. TimMEy profile image82
    TimMEyposted 7 years ago

    I am using criticism as a opportunity to see things from a different perspective, except is it pointless complaining. Normally you can get good feedback from negative criticism.

  10. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    Honestly?  I am not proud to say that I get my feelings hurt at first.  I get defensive (in my head) and mutter and complain (again, just in my head)--then I slowly come to realize that the criticism may have merit and I try to take it in and learn from it--but it takes me a while to get there.

  11. maria.rose profile image36
    maria.roseposted 7 years ago

    First went to a couple of  friends for a few min , then go for a walk, watch movie or do something  that make me relax.............. or
    Avoid any Tussle
    Ignore Wherever You Can
    Don’t be Misled to Anything
    Avoid One on One Talk

  12. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 7 years ago

    Ahhhh,I love that question!
    Only mean people will criticize with negative energy.
    After thinking for years about that,who are the people who criticize,their education,morality Ive decided that my answer will be:
    This is hypocritical, and I reject it.

  13. Roger Rabbit profile image60
    Roger Rabbitposted 7 years ago

    I look it right in the eyes and I punch it square in the face.

  14. zduckman profile image60
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    Well, if someone notices or thinks something of me, there is probably a reason. It may be hard to take initially, but I can usually learn something from it.
    And YES there is a difference between just being negative and giving someone feedback. It is all about the intention. Are they doing it to help you improve, or are they just being negative.

  15. Walt Smith profile image57
    Walt Smithposted 7 years ago

    Positive reinforcement. No pun intended. Ever hear of Ying and Yang, for all negativity there must be equal positivity...W

  16. jalawa03 profile image57
    jalawa03posted 7 years ago

    Smile. The old saying always hold true-Kill them with kindness.

  17. minesgm profile image77
    minesgmposted 7 years ago

    I always look at the brighter side. If I could do something to improve myself out of that criticism, i will take it as a challenge.
    Hurt will be there but discussing it with a friend or family can help me get over it.  They are best to seek comfort to, as they knew me better than anybody else (critics).

  18. larry1987 profile image50
    larry1987posted 6 years ago

    In daily life, we have to face so many negative information, about ourselves, our friedns, and our family. Everyone will be critisized by other people in the world, and no one is perfect to a great extent. So, what you need to do is just to listen to your heart and to be what you really are...