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How do you know if love is gone or if the relationship is just suffering a crisi

  1. Vishaaa profile image78
    Vishaaaposted 6 years ago

    How do you know if love is gone or if the relationship is just suffering a crisis?

    How do you know you are just staying in a relationship for sake and the love is missing?

  2. lovelife08 profile image61
    lovelife08posted 6 years ago

    Sometimes there is no way to know until it is too late.  Other times you just know.  But when you're in a state of confusion and are not sure what the status actually is, do absolutely nothing.  Just let it play out and it will turn out the way it is supposed to.

  3. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I'm not sure you can know, for sure, how the other person feels; and I'm maybe I'm one to wait to too long before leaving, but I think (know) there can come a time when you have absolutely no doubt that what should be there is no longer there. 

    It can sometimes, I suppose, be confusing for some people if they're mixing how they feel (as far as love goes) and other, separate, positive things they may still be getting from the relationship.  That's something, though, that I think being truly honest with oneself about helps clear up.

  4. Quirinus profile image73
    Quirinusposted 6 years ago

    True love can never go away.

    Human love is something else---a blend of the divine and the physical.  I might imagine that couples are lucky if they would have known each other immediately past the passionate period.  Passion usually dulls our sensibilities.

    Depending on your perspective, you may choose to decide that love is a matter of commitment.  You may choose to love the person for a lifetime, even beyond the time of physical attraction and romance.

    Certain things may help you decide in making that commitment.  What are you when you are with the person?  Are you comfortable with yourself when the person is around or do you have to exert extra effort to put forth what you think is a "better" you.  If you could be your natural self when you are around that person, he or she might be someone to keep for life, and making a commitment to love for.

    So, yes, you can say that love is gone if what you're referring to is the passion or sexual attraction or the symbiotic stage of the relationship that usually lasts for about seven years.  So theoretically, every relationship ends around that time if that is the basis of the relationship.

    Otherwise, if your definition of love is a relationship of caring, in my opinion which changes as new experiences present themselves to me, it can last forever as long as there is a commitment to care for each other.

  5. BizGenGirl profile image90
    BizGenGirlposted 6 years ago

    Do you feel like you are still "In Love" with your significant other? Or do you feel like you love them, but you're not "in love" with them any more?

  6. mdlawyer profile image38
    mdlawyerposted 6 years ago

    The real love is a divine communication.  You will feel it from the heart through the look, smile, words and actions.

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    When you are disrespecting yourself by allowing one to disrespect you, you are no longer happy, when there is no consistency!  You no longer see YOU when you look in the mirror as well as you actually feel like a door mat at someone elses residence.  That is when whatever relationship you thought you had is no longer there.  Usually two people who need space or want to work things out do that.  DOn't be a fool and waste your time wondering about where the love went!

    Vonda G. Nelson

  8. maria.rose profile image36
    maria.roseposted 6 years ago

    Love is gone when you try to treat each other with respect but nothing works. Sometimes when people are ready to move on they stay together for other reasons and all they seem to do is hurt each other.If somone feels love is gone perhaps they should question if it was really ever there at all? TRUE LOVE TAKES TIME TO GROW.

  9. Coach Julie profile image58
    Coach Julieposted 6 years ago

    If all the love were gone you'd know you don't want to try anymore.  You'd know you don't want to live the rest of your life like this.  It sounds like you're still in that questioning stage which means there may be some life left in the love you're concerned about.  Communication is the key to success in any relationship. Talk to your other half and be honest about your feelings and your fears.  Be open about what you're thinking and ask for honest feedback.  You may feel like it's over and the other person may not be aware of what you're feeling.  It's important to let the other person know there is something that needs to be worked on so you can both decide if you're willing to do the work.  Best of luck to you.

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    CalebSparksposted 6 years ago

    Since love is an ACTION and not a FEELING (I Corinthians 13:1-7), each person must ask himself whether he is actively practicing Biblical love through his actions. With that said, however, no one can fully love another the way he ought until he has received salvation from the One Who is Love---the Lord Jesus Christ, God in the flesh.

  11. Cameron D. Briggs profile image58
    Cameron D. Briggsposted 6 years ago

    Have you ever wondered or asked if something was traded for it?  A crisis is defined by a series of events that will eventually lead to a conclusion where as if you or the other person is apparently disconnected, then a matter of wheather they are gone is not so much the question but who is going to bring them back....

  12. Kyle Rivers profile image61
    Kyle Riversposted 6 years ago

    The moment you feel like either being alone or with someone is definitely a sure that the "love" is gone.

  13. Laylala profile image61
    Laylalaposted 6 years ago

    Try to imagine your future without them. If it makes you sad that they aren't with you, I think you're still in love.