How can you be successful in a long distance relationship?

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  1. Jenneez profile image60
    Jenneezposted 12 years ago

    How can you be successful in a long distance relationship?

    When your totally in love but unfortunate finances keep you apart, how can you keep the faith, stay positive, and keep your trust in the other person in order to keep the relationship strong and a success?

  2. lazko profile image58
    lazkoposted 12 years ago

    A question touched deeply my soul. Ive experienced such a relationship and i can regretfully say that according to me such relationship is doomed. Soon or later one of the parties fails. Good luck anyway to those determined to resist the pressure.

  3. Cardisa profile image87
    Cardisaposted 12 years ago

    I see my fiance two weekends per month. We seem to get closer every time we meet I don't know if there is a secret but we made a promise to always be honest and respectful. The trust is growing. At first he was very jealous but now he is accepting the situation a little more. I trust him and don't nag him about other women. We keep our conversations centered on the growth and improvement of our lives together. We try not to think about each other negatively, like cheating.

    Keep faithful and it will work.

  4. Matt in Jax profile image61
    Matt in Jaxposted 12 years ago

    Trust, communication, and true love will hold any kind of relationship together. Whether at long distance or right across the street or in the same bedroom nightly.

  5. Loveslove profile image59
    Lovesloveposted 12 years ago

    A long distance relationship 's success depends wholly upon the love,respect and trust each person involved has for the other !!

  6. ThunderKeys profile image65
    ThunderKeysposted 12 years ago

    I'm fascinated by this very popular concept of long distance relationships both as they take place in real life and online. I'm a professional counselor who specializes in evidence-based relationship counseling, and I've not seen any strong research that talks about what makes for a solid long distance-based connection.

    I know that the emotional and sexual affair rate for married couples who live together is around 80% (50% of men and 30% of married woman have sexual affairs). The rate may be greater for emotional affairs or flirting as this is where the majority of transgressions start (at work and online in most cases), mainly due to a lack of awareness of the high risk level.

    I would imagine that the same core principals that sustain a stable, healthy, long-term face to face relationship are also necessary in a long term distance relationship. These include:

    1) Realistic Expectations about long term relationships

    2) Solid Relationship maintenance skills that have been learned and practiced;

    3) Protective relationship boundaries (strategies against flirting or emotional affairs) and very strong

    I would assume that foundational relationship needs would be primarily emotional and social in a long distance relationship and would be met via telephone and electronic communication. For example, there would be little potential conflict around shared house work. Compensatory strategies would have to be negotiated around relationship needs that can't be met through physical presence to one and other (i.e. physical intimacy).

    Great question,
    - Duddy.

  7. Corrie Lamprecht profile image61
    Corrie Lamprechtposted 12 years ago

    It does not work, will never work on long term.  Either -or both - has to offer something up or just forget the whole afair and get realisitc with someone close.  If it is about the money, then it surely is not about the love; bad start for a relationship due for failure.

  8. profile image0
    leann2800posted 12 years ago

    My husband and I lived in different states when we fist met. Faith and trust were not hard. being apart was hard. We were texting constantly, calling, and driving to see each other every other weekend. And we were so into each other the travel was not even tiring, it was exciting because we were going to see each other. It was terribly hard to sleep apart. He moved to my state to be with me. I am so glad he did and the rest is history. We are so happy together. But, I think the main thing that kept us strong was not worrying about the negative. Lack of trust was never even a factor. We were a success apart and together because all we thought about was each other. We did not think of ourselves first because we were better together. Keep your eye on the prize....your relationship. Stay focused. If it is meant to be, the two of you will find a way.

  9. puddingicecream profile image70
    puddingicecreamposted 12 years ago

    Trust, commitment, and persistence on both sides to make the relationship work. Long-distance relationships are definitely doable.

  10. profile image33
    LORD ENKIposted 11 years ago

    By not getting caught when your cheating on him.And don't tell me you don't you all do!

  11. HotUrban profile image73
    HotUrbanposted 11 years ago

    It totally depends on the people. I know of some couples that have spent years apart and are now happily married with kids and some that have split up when they've moved apart. I believe though that the latter is more likely. Especially the longer it goes on. After all a relationship is supposed to be with a person not with a voice on the other end of the phone line.


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