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Which type of love relationship lasts the longest?

  1. MellyMoo profile image60
    MellyMooposted 6 years ago

    Which type of love relationship lasts the longest?

    I have recently had to make a very tough decision and am wondering what your opinions are .... Do you think a relationship based on a long and strong friendship would be more successful?  or a relationship based on strong chemistry?

  2. Jason R. Manning profile image85
    Jason R. Manningposted 6 years ago

    My money is on the couple that is both deaf, dumb and blind...its much harder to argue...just kidding folks.

    Chemistry is only as strong as the drive behind it, which we know wanes with time and our own changing bio-chemistry.  Strong mutal respect, equal goals and an understanding of assisting one another to be the best they can be, this would be ideal.  When any two mates start off in different directions, chemistry and friendship will not help.  You have to be on the same path.  just my 2 pennies.  Cheers.

  3. ThunderKeys profile image66
    ThunderKeysposted 6 years ago

    The love relationships that last the longest are ones in which both partners have become experts at:

    1) Hearing, expressing and meeting each others core-relationship needs reciprocally;
    2) Setting protective Boundaries i.e. affair, flirt-proofing the relationship; and
    3) Sustaining realistic expectations about the true nature of a long term relationship as per steps 1 and 2.

    - Duddy.

  4. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    The honest one.....it never fails!  Chemistry is only built on what you give each other, what you want each other to see to keep the "relationship" going.  Anything involving true friendship brings longevity as is forever written in stone.....Hands Down!

  5. KateWest profile image76
    KateWestposted 6 years ago

    It really depends on the two of you. I had a stronger friendship than chemistry thing and that failed. But you can't rely on chemistry alone. Somewhere is the perfect balance. Here's hoping!

  6. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 6 years ago

    Nobody knows that.
    Marrying somebody is a lottery.

  7. MellyMoo profile image60
    MellyMooposted 6 years ago

    Jason R. Manning .. Do we really 'know' that chemistry wanes with time? and what contributes to this waning?  I think you are exactly right in saying that you both have to be on the same path.

    reeltaulk .. I agree that the honest one is for sure

    KateWest ... Exactly ... it is a balance of both isn't it.

    Thunderkeys ... I like it!

    and akuigla ... I used to think that it was a lottery too but now I tend to disagree.  Thank you for your opinion.

    I think that we need to understand that love is not just a wonderful feeling.  It is so much more than that. I think it is important to look to the past to see how the person has responded in stressful times and how they have treated us in those times.  Do they respond to stress appropriately?  Do they admit when they have made a mistake?  Do they truly listen to you?  Are they completely honest with you?  Can you trust them 100% without having to think about it?  Do you want the same things in life at the same time?  Do you have similar morals and values?  How does the person respond in everyday situations?  How do they relate to your family and friends?  Do they have manners and use them?  Are they naturally kind?  Are they responsible?  Are they capable of giving you what you want in life?  Do you feel that you can talk about anything or are there things you must keep from them?  and they from you?

  8. Sesshoumaru2st profile image57
    Sesshoumaru2stposted 6 years ago

    If you can put up with cheating,disagreements,betrayals,jealously,kids ad all the other problems that exists in relationships for ten years,then you're home made. Good luck,you will need it.

  9. nabeelplus profile image59
    nabeelplusposted 6 years ago

    well i think strong friendship is required to make a relationship stronger & even if your chemistry does not match much, being in a long & strong friendship will change the things over.

  10. puddingicecream profile image74
    puddingicecreamposted 6 years ago

    There need to be a balance of both. If your relationship is based mostly on friendship, you wouldn't be in a relationship with that person.