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Would you let your spouse or partner know all your secrets?

  1. SpiffyD profile image83
    SpiffyDposted 6 years ago

    Would you let your spouse or partner know all your secrets?

    Do you believe in full disclosure or keeping a portion to yourself?

  2. Johnathan L Groom profile image33
    Johnathan L Groomposted 6 years ago

    both- lies keep u together, the truth can tear u apart

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    jami l. pereiraposted 6 years ago

    If you start out on a "lieing note" , you'll end up no better than the other " so sad:(  , If you cannot be honest with your life partner , then you have no trust if you have no trust , you have nothing ... my favorite quote , and i live by it is this ," If honesty isnt everything , than it doesnt mean anything " . so true ... and here is another quote to think about ... "I'd rather you hate me for who i am , than for you to love me for who i am not ", i think both quotes fit together very well , too bad so many people refuse to see the true meaning of love . so sad:(

  4. 4tune profile image60
    4tuneposted 6 years ago

    I have nothing to hide so.. no reason to lie, and would not feel right lying either it would show up somehow I am sure.

  5. Jonesy0311 profile image61
    Jonesy0311posted 6 years ago

    Never. I'm taking them to the grave. I rationalize this because everything worth keeping secret happened before I met my wife. You have to have a little piece for yourself. I can't imagine any positive affects of disclosure.

  6. nabeelplus profile image59
    nabeelplusposted 6 years ago

    Keeping a portion to yourself will be better, as there are many things in a mans life where you have to keep them to yourself same is the case with a woman.

  7. KateWest profile image77
    KateWestposted 6 years ago

    Depends. Don't keep anything from your partner that you truly feel he/she has a right to know. You are allowed some privacy as an individual so that other stuff - share enough to be intimate and to stay close but you can reasonably keep some things to yourself, as long as you aren't hurting anyone.

  8. abrarr profile image60
    abrarrposted 6 years ago

    if you have a spouse that means you love one, LOVE doesn't asks you to lie because if you are hiding something from your lieing then to hide it you'll lie to your spouse and if you truely love your spouse you can't lie.

  9. shoaibgmail profile image64
    shoaibgmailposted 6 years ago

    I think its good if your partner know everything about you so he/she can make a stand for you when you are in trouble..because he/she know that what kind of person you are and they totally trust on you..

  10. Cardisa profile image92
    Cardisaposted 6 years ago

    There might be some things in your past that you are embarrassed about,  or you know might hurt them, so you might have a little problem saying it. On the other hand your relationship should be at a point where you should be able to tell them anything.

    The thing is to know your partner well enough to know when and what to tell them. Don't tell them everything all at once. Take time to tell them things, a little at a time.

    What you could do is tell them up front that there are things about your past that might be a problem, allow them to choose to know or not.

  11. GNelson profile image79
    GNelsonposted 6 years ago

    I think it depends on the life you have lived.  Personally I would never tell all that I have done.  It is way better to learn from your mistakes than to set them free.  One of the things I have learned is words not spoken can't be repeated.

  12. professionalhub profile image60
    professionalhubposted 6 years ago

    Telling everything to our spouse may ruin our relationships i think we shoulder share what makes our bond more stronger.Any thing that may ruin our relationships should always be kept secret.I mean we should be loyal and don't cheat each other, simple is the best.But we should not share those relationships we have before marriage or earlier relationships we had in the past

  13. shampa sadhya profile image83
    shampa sadhyaposted 6 years ago

    I believe in giving space and having space but it is in terms of personal choices only. No secrets at all. If there is any secret between the two then giving space to each other with respect will convert into disrespect and doubtful attitude.
    If I am keeping something secret from my spouse it is bound to prick my mind with a thought that if I can have secrets then he may have it too. Thus, trust is gone due to one's own fake attitude. Well, life is precious. Be honest!

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    Motown2Chitownposted 6 years ago

    I would answer every question my spouse answers 100% honestly, but if there are things that don't come up that could possibly be painful for him, I certainly wouldn't hurry to bring those things into the open.

  15. mkrandhawa profile image60
    mkrandhawaposted 6 years ago

    It depends upon the partner that your partner believe in you and understand your feelings then you can say your secrets to your spouse /partner without any hesitation but it shouldn't be against your relationship that create a problem in your relationship.....