How do you stop yourself from cheating on your spouse/partner?

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  1. jpcmc profile image90
    jpcmcposted 11 years ago

    How do you stop yourself from cheating on your spouse/partner?

    It's really sad that many couples separate because of a cheating partner.  There are faithful people and there are those that are not.  What suggestions can you give so that one can avoid cheating on their spouse/partner.

  2. Ashley Usher profile image70
    Ashley Usherposted 11 years ago

    You cannot change other people's behaviour, you can only change your own. Unfortunately, cheating is very widespread, statistics varies between %20-%60, so I am not sure if any person can avoid this unpleasant fact. It may have several reasons like lack of intimacy (emotional or sexual), fear of commitment, lack of self esteem etc. If your partner cheats you,  and if s/he proved that loyal and loving person before, you need to deal with issue directly and try to understand why she/he did this in the first place, so that you can work on your problems, if she/he refuses to cooperate and acknowledge the problem I think you better leave. I think one indicator in cheating partners is their novelty-seeking behaviour. If you are dating  with a person who has changed so many houses, jobs and girlfriends/boyfriends, you might better opt-out before it's too late, since when the novelty of your relationship wears s/he would look for someone new and exciting.  If you are constantly attracting cheating partners, you better do some soul-searching since you might be projecting your own desire for cheating to your partners.

  3. kgarcia1113 profile image60
    kgarcia1113posted 11 years ago

    I think its pretty simple. If you truly love someone you wont have the desire to cheat, however... What people need to do is consider how they would feel if their spouse cheated on them. If they wouldn't mind being cheated on then I suppose they would be able to justify cheating.

  4. MickS profile image61
    MickSposted 11 years ago

    Honour and self control.

  5. padmendra profile image50
    padmendraposted 11 years ago

    Cheating the partner or being faithful is all what depends on depends on how relations are built-in a hurry without heart being involved or you only involved your heart in it.No one in the world is a cheater however it all depends on the level of satisfaction you desire for.if you are and can make yourself happy with what you have then cheating your partner would never arise in your mind but if you can see no beauty on what you have then the beautiful and the best relation of the world can also not tie your wings.

  6. mariale2003 profile image61
    mariale2003posted 11 years ago

    It is complicated!!!  I think cheating is a direct action that comes from a stage of loneliness and absence of all three parties. All vertices of the triangle have something to do to make this happen. So to stop it one of the parties have to take a deep look if that type of relationship is worth it or not.
    Relationships are complicated imagine if you bring one person in it!!! It's a chaos !!!
    So to avoid that, I would said  is always keep the eye contact, the touching, hugs, sometimes couple go to work and the "kiss to each other" and if you ask them, what is your husband or wife wearing today?, they don't know...shocking true!!!
    Keep the interest for what they were together, have at least one thing in common to enjoy it  and other any many different  to share with.  Keep the flame of love burning is not an easy task by it is a great challenge to take.

  7. MarleneB profile image93
    MarleneBposted 11 years ago

    Really? How about... just don't do it! I think everyone knows it is wrong to cheat on their spouse/partner. There is a thought process and strategy involved with cheating.

    If you know something is wrong, then just don't do it. It is always a yes or no decision. Pick "no" each time. It's not any harder than that.

  8. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    That old saying - just say no.  If a person realizes what a betrayal cheating is and how devastating it would be for their partner - that should make a decent person think twice about it.

    But if you love your spouse, why on earth would you even consider doing harm emotionally to that person?

  9. WitchesMIX profile image60
    WitchesMIXposted 11 years ago

    If you have the feeling of wanting to cheat on your partner... and it's to the point where you really think you will, then you should just tell your partner that you want someone else more than them before you actually cheat. As one is unfair and the other is honest.

    And for those who pose the argument "what if i love my partner but want sex with some one else," then you must be lying to yourself, for love is stronger than the feelings of blind lust. Even chemically this is true, as love releases more chemical reactions than lust does.

  10. deannachase profile image60
    deannachaseposted 11 years ago

    Cheating often comes when people need to feed their ego.  But self esteem comes from having integrity (honesty, treating people the way you want to be treated, being reliable).  Develop your sense of self through making right choices verse the very short term enjoyment with lasting negative affects of going outside your relationship.  And don't kid yourself, what they don't know still hurts them.

  11. Carrie Terry profile image61
    Carrie Terryposted 11 years ago

    what stops me from ever cheating would be the fact of how much it would hurt me if he did it.

  12. JessicaSmetz profile image82
    JessicaSmetzposted 11 years ago

    If you love someone, you wont feel the desire to cheat..and if you do its lust. You can fight anything for someone you love. You just dont do it easy as pie.

  13. AlokkumarSharma profile image59
    AlokkumarSharmaposted 11 years ago

    I don't understand why people cheats other. While we all know that by believing in each other and being fair with your spouse/partner makes your life beautiful. And cheating with partners always destroy your life you will always feel like living in hell so, why we should make our life complicated when we can make it like heaven. I can't even thought to cheat my wife I know what I will feel when I get to know that she is cheating me.

  14. dashingscorpio profile image82
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    Both cheating and being monogamus are choices. Naturally if one is "madly in love" with someone the last thing on their mind is to cheat on them.
    On the other hand if they are not "in love", going through a "rough patch", been fighting, feeling neglected, sexually frustrated, or taken for granted, some people might give in to temptation.
    What keeps me from cheating is I take pride in being a honest person. I would hate having to tell lies, make excuses, keep track of all the B.S. that goes along with cheating. If I have a strong urge to cheat then I know it's time to end my relationship. I would not choose to stay in an unhappy relationship.

  15. MrsLWarner profile image66
    MrsLWarnerposted 11 years ago

    self control and respect. If your going to cheat then don't be with the person. Simple as that.


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