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Should you compete with someone you care for?

  1. Agnes Penn profile image82
    Agnes Pennposted 6 years ago

    Should you compete with someone you care for?

  2. Johnathan L Groom profile image34
    Johnathan L Groomposted 6 years ago

    It depends on what.  Competition can, at times, bring out the best in a person.  Alongside that, a gentleman (I was taught) should let a lady beat him at certain things.

  3. sj_workman79 profile image57
    sj_workman79posted 6 years ago

    I think it's a case by case thing. Also it depends on the person you are competing against and if they have the personality that can handle competition from someone they care about. I can handle competition and never want someone to let me beat them.

  4. nabeelplus profile image60
    nabeelplusposted 6 years ago

    No i would never compete with some one i care for its against my ethics and i will surely with draw from the competition.

  5. .josh. profile image60
    .josh.posted 6 years ago

    I agree with sj that, to a degree, it's a case-by-case thing, but competition can be perfectly healthy if you're both 'good sports.' If you're dealing with the type who's going to go ballistic if they get beat at anything, or get cocky and irritating if they win, then competition probably isn't a good idea (though if that's the case, I think you might have bigger issues to worry about).

  6. KyleBear profile image56
    KyleBearposted 6 years ago

    It sort of depends on what you are competing for. Grades? Yeah definitely.

  7. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    it depends on what your competing for or at. competions helps a person grow and learn unless the outcome is devistating or ends up cause one party to lose too much.

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    Arlene V. Pomaposted 6 years ago

    Someone once told me that in a household, you don't steal another person's thunder.  My ex-husband crocheted since he was four, so I put the craft aside when it came to competition.  It all depends.  By nature, I'm not a competitor, but I sure could have learned from him.  He had this state fair winning crochet stitch that I have never been able to duplicate.

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    WHy would anyone do that?  There are friendly competitions that take place between people that are close, but to compete to make a point or prove just shows envy and jealousy.  If the competition goes beyond being proud or happy for the person you are competing with, then.....

  10. shampa sadhya profile image82
    shampa sadhyaposted 6 years ago

    What is wrong in competing if both have a strong understanding and respect for each other. The competition cannot harm the relationship. On the other side if any misunderstanding arises then it has to be believed that no  genuine caring was present in the relationship.

  11. Horse Feathers profile image60
    Horse Feathersposted 6 years ago

    All fair in love and war.
    Healthy competition encourages the best in all of us.

  12. Agnes Penn profile image82
    Agnes Pennposted 6 years ago

    I'm amazed at the sudden and diverse reactions to this question.  Competition, I always believed, should exist in a healthy way, but with time I've seen so many people harmed by a lack of appreciation of the uniqueness of each individual. 
    In a competition the one who wins ends up alone and the one who looses ends up hurt.  People cannot seem to handle these consequences any longer transforming them into good - especially when loved ones are involved. 
    So, I wondered what is the best approach.
    Thank you for your answers.  It's giving me a lot to consider.