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Anyone ever been the other woman or man?

  1. sj_workman79 profile image59
    sj_workman79posted 6 years ago

    Anyone ever been the other woman or man?

    Overwhelmed With Envy

  2. LADYGIRL profile image61
    LADYGIRLposted 6 years ago

    Yes I was the other woman by default, I didn't know I should have done my homework before I got into a relationship with him. Basically what I'm saying when your meeting someone for the first time.  The relationship is new so you have to do some type of investigating, I know it sound harsh, but these days and time you have too.  You could meet anybody and they can tell you anything.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    In my youth I have knowingly slept with married women or those who were involved with another man. However I wouldn't consider myself being "the other man" since I had no "emotional investment" with these women.

    In my opinion the "other woman/man" is  a title used to define a person's role in a "relationship" (ie: boyfriend, fiancĂ©, or husband.). The "other person" is usually expected to be faithful to the married person. (Waiting in the wings....) They don't usually get to spend time together on holidays. This leaves the single person going out alone to their company holiday party and countless other events. They are pretty much regulated to living life on "stand-by". If you are emotionally invested in the arrangement I would imagine at some point you would get tired of playing second fiddle. There is also a  possibility that you are not the only "other person" as was the case with Tiger Woods. (There is not much to be evious about.)

    If it's a situation where two people just get together to have sex every once in while with "no strings attached" they probably don't think of themselves as being (the other anything). The same could be true of a man who is regular client for an escort. He's having sex on the side without a relationship. Naturally the escort/prostitute does not think of herself as being "the other woman".

  4. Smalltowngrl1375 profile image61
    Smalltowngrl1375posted 6 years ago

    I met this charming fella, started hanging out, everything was great. Then he started acting suspicious, and had to keep going out of town, and then came an angry message from his previously non-existent girlfriend. Not only did he lie to both of us, he told her that I knew about her, and he told me that she was just a crazy ex girlfriend. So complicated and confusing. Will definitely do research from now on.