How do you know if a guy loves you?
So what are some signs?
It really does depend on the guy Ellie. I've loved the same woman for over 8 years now, and am still tremendously incompetent in getting my love for her across. Yes, we are together, but I'm stone-cold when it comes to emotions.
Nevertheless, I guess there are a few ways to figure out whether a guy loves you. Ask yourself some of the questions mentioned below:
- Does he take special care to get my attention?
- Is he there when I want him to be there, and also when I need him to be there?
- Does he routinely go out of his way to help you out, or take care of you?
- Does he listen when I speak?
- Does he find excuses to be with me more than other people in the same capacity in his life?
While none of the questions above will answer your question with certainty, they will help you better understand the nature of your relationship with the guy.
Each of us defines love in our own way. We tell ourselves if she/he loves me then they will say blah blah, they will act this way, they will bend over backwards to please me, they will do the best they can to ensure that I am happy....etc However in reality no two people are the same nor do they think and believe the same. Some people are content with simply hearing the words, "I love you". Others observe behavior and actions.
First of all YOU have to define what "Love" is in YOUR mind. It's the only way you can identify it when you see it. Secondly you must learn what love means to your significant other.
A woman may feel loved if her man sends her flowers, poems, candy, plans romantic getaways, helps around the house, and supports her goals.....(Until she learns he does the same thing for EVERY girl he dates!)
Now she feels love is not about words or actions! In order for her to feel loved she has to KNOW he is doing something "special" for her. For this woman to feel loved she has to believe she is "the exception". Her man has to top whatever he has offered his exes. She measures his love by his level of "sacrafice".
Anytime we ask if someone "really loves us" it's because we don't believe they do. Perception is reality. Not believing equals not Trusting. You have to trust your own instincts and if something tells you this person is not "trustworthy" move on. Not listening to yourself leads to regrets.
Last but not least there are those of us (who do not love ourselves) and therefore have a real difficult time believing anyone else could love us. Until this individual learns to love themself and raise their self-esteem they will never ever really believe someone loves them. In order accept love one must believe she/he is loveable.
cephia..You are not the only male of the species that is no good at getting your emotions of love across .....the special person in my life cant and wont tell me that he loves me .but I know he does by the way he is when we are together..
elliegoulding.....My special person just has to look at me..his eyes speak volumes ,he knows my favourite perfume and spoils me with it..he is attentive , thoughtful , kind and generous and an excellent cook and lover..what more can a girl want..who needs to be told 'I LOVE YOU 'every few minutes...? admittedly it iwould be nice to hear those 3 words occasionaly,but its not a must,look at how you are treated ,that tells you how he feels in more ways than one !!
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