Would you leave your partner because of the lack of sex, if the rest is good?
Having lived my life as a single for quite some years, I left a starting relationship many times because of the low quality in bed. After talking about it, things mostly didn't change so I left. This could take 2 or 3 months, enough to decide how I would end up with somenone in the future.
I'm the type of person to need fire in bed and fire by heart. I don't want to grow old with my future 'brother'. As a woman and being Colombian, I often agree with men who want to split up for such a reason. I don't agree with men cheating over it. What do you think?
I think this is an issue of personality and compatability within a relationship and I feel it is an acceptable reason to end a relatively new relationship rather than considering looking elsewhere for that attention and cheating on your partner.
You both need to be happy and comfortable within a relationship- if sex is important to you then that has to be right and is an element of happiness.
Good luck in your search
Found the jackpot 8 months ago:-) I was just curious about the opinions of others, since most men have their strong opinions about it, but women seem to be reluctant to speak about it.
Men are supposed to be the ones to find sex so important. Women are supposed to like the romance.
Forget "should" or "supposed to". If you are not happy the way things are, it's up to you to change it. If things can't be changed, then - accept it and move on. It takes courage, but don't you think it's worth it? Sex is supposedly a mirror of t
Never. We have such a good life together, and sex is one small (but wonderful) part of it. There is so much more. I would never leave him for that reason!
Splitting up if things don't work out is always better than playing pretend and cheating in the meanwhile.
That being said, I disagree with those who say "Sex isn't everything".
True, there are many more things that are important in a relationship: your shared traits, your interests, the way you handle things, the way he makes you smile, etc. Personality truly *is* important, it'd be shallow to go for a man who is very attractive but a jerk in personality. It wouldn't work out. But that doesn't mean that physical attractiveness, being good-looking, being a good cuddler and having a good sexual relationship aren't important. A person with a good personality but to whom you are not physically attracted to, can be your best friend or, like you said, a brother. For a life partner, you'd want the total package.
If that is saying that lack of one of the things I listed there is a good reason to just give up, I say no. Things don't always work out, that's why you talk, communicate, express your desires and work on those issues together.
I believe "Life is a personal journey".
Each of us has a right to have our own "deal breakers".
If "bad sex" or lack of sex is one of yours there is nothing wrong with walking out.
Cheaters seek to hold onto all that is good in their primary relationship while seeking to fulfill their other needs on the side. It takes more courage to walk away from a "known" present to seek out an future with an "unknown" person.
Ironically I published a hub on this very subject recently.
http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ationships
I truly hope you find what you want!
Each of us is responsible for our own happiness and this is done by selecting the "right people" to invest our time with.
Best of luck!
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