what will you do if your partner cant satisfy you in bed

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   sweetjulieposted 14 years ago

   will your leave him

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      DogSiDaedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Or her.
      
      Edit: And no I won't because that is shallow. If something isn't going the way you want, talk about it, and work on it. That's what you should do in a relationship.

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         sona_vivek123posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         hi

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         curlytree2009posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yes. I agree on that. It is very important for the two of you to talk about the things that you didn't understand or you want to happen.

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            toddwertzposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Definitely true!

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      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If after a lot of talking and explaining, he doesn't learn how to do it, I'd leave him.

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         prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         hahahaha

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            tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Of course! I hate to be bored !
            
            Hi Pretty !

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               prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Hi tantrum, can you give him a warning, what if before he goes out he wants to make love to you and you discovered that he improved already because that will be the last one HOORAH, will you give him another chance?? LOL

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                  tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  I doubt that would happen !
                  Anyway all my partners have been excellent. I always try them before buying !

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                     prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     LOL

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                     pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     i am on sale

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         caravalhophotoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         F**k me badly once, shame on you. F**k me badly twice, shame on me.
         
         I truely believe in testdriving before purchasing.

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      double_frickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      haven't yet *snickers*
      in all seriousness though, in a committed long-term relationship this is not an unusual obstacle. but it can be overcome as long as both partners are honest and willing to put in the care and effort to solve it.
      its nothing compared to something like infidelity and even that can be overcome.

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      soni2006posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      or her. Never, especially when I am in love. There are many ways to solve this problem. First of all, it depends on the mood of a person and there are many more things for which I will create a hub. Very good question sweetjulie.

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      define "satisfy".

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      rainstreetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      if your not satisfied in bed, try the couch.

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         Craftsmithposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         i like tht rainstreet

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         6 String Veteranposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         (In response to rainstreet)
         
         And if that's too noisy go to the BR.

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      free4indiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I read "the most embarassing moment of my life was when my boyfriend introduce me to another lady as his mother because i was fat"......
      
      Your boyfriend is dumb

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      teach them , show them, and tell them what you want and how you want it...
      
      expirimentation is the key ingredient!

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      NewYorkerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Are you kidding me? Leave someone because they're not good in bed? We have sex therapists..

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       speedbirdposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Discuss with him the issue and look for ways to improve your sex life. Also, don't point figures you might be the problem

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       speedbirdposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       If you think that your partner is not satisfying you in bed then you might be the problem. Communication is key to any satisfying relationship, you need to be honest and talk it out.

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   Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago

   well you could always teach him some moves if he's that inexperienced.  or if he's one of those macho type guys that's too proud, you could always suggest something in a fun way like buy a book about kama sutra and tell him that you've always wanted to try some of those moves.  if that doesn't work you can always do other erotic things to spice up your relationship like role playing your fantasies with him, swinging, voyeurism, or even eating food off each other might help.  or you could give each other erotic massages too.  there's plenty of things you can try before leaving him.  Whatever your hearts desire.  besides, it never hurts to try new things.

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   AEvansposted 14 years ago

   Absolutely not especially when you love them! Talk about it , you don't walk away from it.

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   tell them

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   Be loving, caring and understanding.
   
   Then, find a way to make the relationship improve, instead of complaining to others about how unsatisfying your partner is in bed.
   
   If you have a problem with your partner. Inform them sincerely and address the problem together.
   
   
   
   If you choose not to, then it's obvious that you don't love them and are extremely selfish.
   
   

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   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   Rent better movies?

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      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      
      hi sneak !

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         TMMasonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         lolol
         
         That is too funny sneak.

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            sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Thanks partner!

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         sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Hey tantrum! You enjoy the holidays!

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   Citrus000posted 14 years ago

   If your partner can't satisfy you in bed and you choose to leave him.....Well, I think that he should consider himself better off.

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   waynetposted 14 years ago

   I would just have a five knuckle shuffle and go to bed...lifes too short to spend worrying about a good bed, you could just buy another one, one every couple of days if you wish. the skies the limit.

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   Richieb799posted 14 years ago

   You should'nt leave them sex isnt everything. My ex was much better at sex, but you have to make do with what you've got.

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      Citrus000posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Learn to make better, not make do. 

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      DogSiDaedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Better hope your current partner doesn't read this

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    Bill Manningposted 14 years ago

    Seems like if two people really love each other and are open with each other than they will figure out a way to please both. It takes time to learn what a person wants, how they want it and so on.
    
    But you have to not be shy and TELL him/her what you want. Not just figure your not compatible and leave, or suffer in silence. The more your intimate with someone the better it should get.
    
    I had a single one night stand (the afternoons don't count) and it was the worst sex I ever had, all because we did not know what the other one liked or wanted.

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    guide them and tell them what satisfies you, and ask them also what will satisfy them...
    
    but LOVE is the greatest aphrodisiac

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       Hmrjmr1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Along with lots and lots of practice! Gotta keep going till you get it right!! Never say quit!

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    tony0724posted 14 years ago

    Good sex is the by product of a good relationship not vice versa. And if you are truly a team it should be talked about.

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       prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Tony,  Chargers won christmas day, congrats,,,

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          tony0724posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Hi there Maita ! Always nice to see ya

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    Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

    Hi everybody!
    So glad/relieved to find the conversation still ripping here on HP about the issues that matter to all.
    
    Uh-- has anyone mentioned FANTASIZING? If you put your mind into it your body will definitely follow...
    At least, that's what I've read. Ha ha. MM

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    wsp2469posted 14 years ago

    The women I date have never had that problem!
    Then again, I encourage talk in the bedroom--ALL KINDS!

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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    I'd only leave via the back gate to my friend Suzanne's for a bit, then return after, er a small conversation with her.

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       habeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Aha, Charlie! So you're cheating on me with Suzanne! Gimme back my pecan pie!

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          ralwusposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Habee, it, they are gone and were so very good too! I have not had to go to Suzanne's for more than two years now. Just sayin'. LOL I do talk to her and see her often. She too likes good Scotch.

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       Mamelodyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       what a brilliant idea.. I'm going to nip over to my friend Rob's place for er.. small conversation!

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    get another partner Ha
    

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    Dale Mazurekposted 14 years ago

    In being with my wife for 22 or so years we have both gone through times where we just couldnt perform.
    
    The thing is we were patient and worked our way through it and presently are experiencing some of the best sex ever.
    
    Even if she couldnt perform I love her so much I would never leave her.
    
    She is my soul mate not my sex toy

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       Hmrjmr1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Dittos on that my Zena and I had 23 great years and we learned as we went! And some times we were each others sex toys like I said lots o Practice

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       janiek13posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That is very sweet.

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Yup! Practice makes perfect! And my poor hubby being married to a teacher...you know what they say about us teachers - we make ya do it till you get it right!

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    Dream a dreamposted 14 years ago

    you should really talk about it, i know its hard believe me i've been through it but when you say something it gets better.. and it makes the relationship stronger if you get through it. xx hope this comment helps xx

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    efeguyposted 14 years ago

    though sex is not love,but it is a necessity in a relationship.
    
    teach her

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    ahmadraza212posted 14 years ago

    i encourage that is first time in my life and say please come on i want second try and then prove...

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    bluesky4realposted 14 years ago

    Its funny that both men and women can never be satisfied (to a certain percentage) in and out of bed due to issues ranging from lack of understanding, not wanting to be adventurous or try something new.
    
    Lets look at it from this perspective, if your man's genitalia is little and you are the type that love the big house, drive a big car and end p with a man with a small tool, then there will be problem. I think the best thing to do is to get help.
    
    I have an article on that but since we're not allowed to post link here, I'll find a way to put it in my Hub page.

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    flread45posted 14 years ago

    Try another bed!!LOL

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       bluesky4realposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       that's hilarious... what if you end up not satisfied on the bed, will you return to the first or try yet another one?

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    never had this problem - but if I had, I doubt if I would have left, I would have hired a sex therapist to teach us both new tricks.

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    Pamela N Redposted 14 years ago

    If you've been married for a long time and everything else is good you stick around.
    
    Having good fantasies and secret toys helps.

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    L.Marieposted 14 years ago

    I would talk to him about it or while your in bed doing WHATEVER...Just kinda say in a good way oh can you do this and show him how if he is unsure of what your talking about. I sure hope that if someone felt that way about me, i hope they'd talk to me about it and not just leave. They best way for someone to learn something is for some else to show them.

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    yenajeonposted 14 years ago

    After trying to learn or change, I would leave.

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    Ron Montgomeryposted 14 years ago

    No, but I certainly wouldn't leave a gratuity.

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Don't worry, the socialist democrats will see to it that everyone has equal satisfaction and are making love on a level playing field.

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    Thank God! Someone genuinely looking out for me!

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    Ron Montgomeryposted 14 years ago

    I've just decided to join a party.

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    I can't get nooooo satisfaction! ♫♪♫♪  I can't get no . . .

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    skyfireposted 14 years ago

    First it was all about money and now it's all about bed ?
    
    Ok, next ?

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    all about food?

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    singing?  ♫♪♫♪

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    tell him/her. you can guide him, try and try LOL

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       Ron Montgomeryposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That won't work.  She can't sing worth a damn and there's no amount of my guidance that will help.

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          prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          lots of lollies (baskets of sweet foods) and mic on the sale now look at amazon sales, needs to be trained for six months, dial this number,,,,monicas number, lewinsky

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    wsp2469posted 14 years ago

    Personally, if you have more than one partner it isn't an issue or if you ladies would all date ME--there would be no issue for YOU either.

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       Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Tha's very true, if you have several partners each of them can fill in a gap according to your mood

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    Anathposted 14 years ago

    Usually I have no problem "training" my boys although a couple of them were reluctant to learn new tricks, needles to say that they were damped like hot potatoes never to be seen again!

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    Mamelodyposted 14 years ago

    I'd just get myself a toyboy who can sort it out

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    open the front door and say goodbye...and take you rampant rabbit with you...the battery has been dead for years

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    dyesebel10posted 14 years ago

    use a toy.. LOL

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    out I said out....

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    shoot him and get a new one

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    Greg Cremiaposted 14 years ago

    With a good test drive this should not be a concern.

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       caravalhophotoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       exactly...!  Look under the hood and kick the tires.

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    out I said....out

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       mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       what?  you mean my pussy would have to go out in the cold rain just because you're so hard to satisfy???  I never thought you could be so cruel!

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    sometimes love can be cruel..you know I need much love...now your batteries are done...you must go out into the world and re-charge your batteries....yes Wet out into the Wet..very Wet.....

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    well, ok, but I did happen to bring along this battery charger, which charges the battery which runs the um, thing, which recharges me, HEY!  guess what! I wasn't the problem!  You were!  of course, I'll go out in the rain and get very wet - and glad to do it!  hehehe heh

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    one two, cha cha cha!

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    And then suddenly the door swung open and Gertrude walked in - she was angry that there in his arms was Meg1....why she asked why?

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    one, two, cha cha cha   - because you're no damn good, Gertrude! go back to your farmboys and leave my Irish alone!

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