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Would a sexless vacation/getaway with your mate/spouse frustrate you?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Would a sexless vacation/getaway with your mate/spouse frustrate you?

    For a lot of people there is an assumption when a couple takes a vacation or goes on a weekend getaway romance will fill the air and the flames of passion will burn nightly. Are you one of those people who thinks this way?


  2. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Of course. The point of a vacation is for enjoyment. That is part of the dream process. My partner knows this and feels the same way.

  3. Jorge546 profile image61
    Jorge546posted 5 years ago

    Definitely.  With no stress, no worries and no normal routines why not take the time for intimacy?  Passion fuels any relationship and should be understood.  Once on a 7 day cruise my partner and I made time for 6 of those days!

  4. thisiknow profile image60
    thisiknowposted 5 years ago

    It wouldn’t bother me at all. Of course the passionate, romantic, sex-filled get-away is always awesome… but if for some reason it turned out to not be possible it wouldn’t frustrate me. I think it’s important to be with someone who you enjoy spending time with regardless what the two of you are doing.

  5. SylviaSky profile image94
    SylviaSkyposted 5 years ago

    Not at all. We could be camping, mountaineering, at a monastery retreat...we could go a few days without sex while having other big fun or fantastic experiences.

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    Contriceposted 5 years ago

    I would be very frustrated. The point of a romantic getaway is to spend intimate time with your partner. In my opinion, sex is apart of that...as well as good conversation, long mornings, room service, cocktails, then sex again.

  7. EmerKelly profile image89
    EmerKellyposted 5 years ago

    I would like it if there was a lot of sex, but it wouldn't frustrate me if there wasn't. Sex is a big part of intimacy but not the only element in it. As long as I felt close to my partner and we were both having a lot of fun together I would not feel frustrated. Of course, if the lack of sex continued for weeks I would begin to feel worried.

  8. weekend profile image61
    weekendposted 5 years ago

    I've been married seven times, and each marriage has terminated during vacation. Three came to an end during the honeymoon.

    1. michaelzinetti profile image60
      michaelzinettiposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This is kind of a weird comment but yet so true. I remember going on vacation with one girlfriend and we were just there in the hotel room, no distractions, forced to, I don't know, TALK! It was awful. We broke up when we got back.

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    monica50posted 5 years ago

    I don't think i would be frustrated,because my mate always wants to have sex.  This would be a welcoming event on vacation for me!  I would be focusing on just enjoying being away from home and the daily grind of being at home.

  10. Rosana Modugno profile image83
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    Oh, I don't want to dissect this question but I have to.  The answer depends on the reason for the vacation/getaway and the length of the stay.

    If it's to visit family while staying in their house, it would depend on whose family we'd be visiting.  If it's mine, I can guarantee you nothing will happen.  LOL  Remember that movie Meet the Fockers?  Ok, Meet the Modugnos.  They are louder and a lot more outspoken, plus we would be too busy fending off my mother's constant efforts to force feed us and my father's attempts at political jokes.

    If it's business, then maybe it's best to keep it that way.  It wouldn't bother me too much in that case.  I like to keep my working hat on over my horns.  wink

    Also, how long are we staying?  If it's a couple of days that's fine.  But if it's a week or more, then I would be a frustrated. 

    Finally, do we have kids?  If we have kids and this is our time to be alone, then you better make some "sexy time" for us because if not, I guarantee you when we get back home, you're lucky if you see me in a towel, let alone naked.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Rosana,  This would be a vacation/getaway for (two). Just you and your significant other staying at a hotel, on a cruise ship, an all inclusive island resort...etc Hopefully this clarifies the question. :-)

  11. movielardatadare profile image47
    movielardatadareposted 5 years ago

    No, a sexless vacation/getaway with my woman would not frustrate me.  (In fact, she and I don't go on vacations.  Chillin' at home is our vacation because we happily don't have any kids yet.  We can do whatever we want.)  So, I'm going to speak hypothetically here.  It wouldn't frustrate me because I know exactly what would happen when we got back home.  We would more than make up for the vacation--in fact, our return home would end up being more fun than the vacation due to our extracurricular activities.  For some reason romance stays in the air at our home.  We have a fire extinguisher, but I don't think that puppy can quell the flames of passion that burn in our happy place.  So, like I said, I would not get frustrated if this happened to me.  She and I are quite satisfied with vacationing at our home.  Sure, things can change.  However, our extracurricular activities sure do help to kindle our intense love for each other.

  12. newcalendar profile image68
    newcalendarposted 5 years ago

    It depends on what kind of vacation it is, if it's a romantic one then you do expect something to happen when the mood is right, but if thats all you expect it's likely to ruin the holiday! Isn't it more about being with them then shallowly 'using' them for that?

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    kiplingposted 5 years ago

    well definitely it does. i am saying that from my personal experience. I was meeting my bf after a while. I thought we are going to have a lot of fun n sex. But we did it just twice in three days. we roamed here n there n watched tv.... and because of that most of the time my mood was upset

  14. Lin02 profile image53
    Lin02posted 5 years ago

    Hell Yes. Vacation without sex that is unheard of. I will immediately take my spouse to the counseling if it happens.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Loved your answer. LOL!

  15. dndswordsmith profile image69
    dndswordsmithposted 5 years ago

    Look, when u live in a house full of kids, I don't care where we are at a family members house (very quietly), resort, hotel, camping, it don't matter. I'm gettin' me some! Although it is not the #1 factor, sex is a very important part of our (my husband & I) marriage. We get it in at home. Vacation sex is a MUST x2(times 2.) So H3LL Yes, I'd be more than frustrated more like ABW.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I heard that! LOL!

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    mamibakerposted 5 years ago

    I am not one of those people who think that the flames of passion will burn nightly, but I am one of those who thinks that the reason for taking a vacation alone with my spouse, with no children, no talking about the schedule this week, bills to pay and what part of our body is tired and aching today, is to get away from the daily stress that keeps us from re-connecting as a couple. So, that said, I do expect sex, like the kind of sex we had before kids, before all the stress, before we had to keep looking at the baby monitor if we heard a noise, and the one when we could scream as loud as we wanted without worry that the kids will hear us and come running to the room to see what is going on with mami. LOL! Although sex is very important in a married couple's life, being able to have a conversation with no interruptions while having dinner and wine, being able to take a walk together while holding hands, or to watch a movie in bed with no interruptions or worries about having to wake up early the next day, laugh, dance and have fun together is also as important and a great platform or as some call it "foreplay" for great sex with your partner. I don't know about every night, but I'm sure it would be a lot more than we are having now smile

  17. LittleMissIowa profile image58
    LittleMissIowaposted 5 years ago

    Romance should fill the air. I Absolutely believe that on a vacation sex should go on and in a new surrounding trying new or naughty things to spice up ones sex life wouldn't seem so bad..what happens on vaca, stays on vacation..or cums home smile So back to the question, what does that even mean? A sexless vacation..getaway, that sounds like torture to me, definitely not a vacation and if that is your idea of a getaway then something is missing in your everyday personal life. I feel that with all relationships in a person's life there is some amount of work that goes into keeping them harmious. Especially with your spouse, whom we should deam closest to us than anyone else. Relationships are a two way street and whoever says they are not is probably not on the same page as one another or just in denial. I have quite a few friends that always act like life is perfect all the time even when I know they are going through a rough patch and I admire them for their lackluster faces. But come on people, why can't we just all learn to be honest with eachother instead of putting on a fake smile and telling one another, "I'm great, never been better," learn to communicate in a way to get your point or feelings across without losing our sense of honesty. The next time you get angry bite your tongue. Wait 30mins and see if the problem still bothers you. Maybe it was the delivery or the words they said but they probably didn't mean it to piss you off, I promise. The problem begins when couples lose the ability to communicate with eachother what they actually want and need, sexually and personally. Figure out what gets your spouse going whether its roses, a massage or changing the tune of your attitude a little and remind yourself when you go in for the "Flames of passion" keep your sensitivity out of it. If he or she doesn't get it the first time, try again. Remember why you love this person and work harder. If you have to take a vacation to rehab your relationship it's not going to matter whether you're home, in pubic or on a beach in Borabora.

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    danielabramposted 5 years ago

    Depends... if I were climbing Mt. Everest, visiting the Pyramids, or traversing the Great Wall of China, I'm not about to waste my time doing something I can do at home.

  19. TimFilmoore profile image59
    TimFilmooreposted 7 months ago

    yes, and that would really be annoying and could lead to cheating

  20. realtalk247 profile image69
    realtalk247posted 6 months ago

    The expectation should be clear before you go so no one is confused.  If you're married, in a relationship, attracted/dating then most likely one would expect intimacy. However, a discussion should take place getting clarification. You can do it by hint or ask directly but there is nothing wrong with clarification.