Why don't more women ask guys out on a date?
I am just curious. FYI - I am only familiar with the behavior of women in Texas, specifically in Dallas.
Because they fear rejection or because they are still waiting for the men to do the asking.
Now if the woman is a strong, independent one...she WOULD do the asking. At least that's what I think.
It's kind of strange, isn't it? For years women wanted to prove that they are equal to or greater than men but when it comes to what they always thought was such a simple task for a man to do like asking someone of the opposite sex out on a date, they seem to panic and just wait for the guy to do it. I think it goes back to a long lived tradition and some might argue a natural order of courtship.
I happen to know some guys that feel uncomfortable if a woman were to ask them out. They would refuse out of principle. Right or wrong, I think it is the way most of us were raised. It is a belief system that is hard to change.
Social norms. There's also a belief that guys like to do the chasing, while women like to be chased.
Because I'm pretty sure the whole balance of nature would be upset, the earth would tilt and the geese would start flying the wrong way in the winter. So basically, it's for the birds.
Women get really freaking cool in their 30's. I get asked on dates sometimes by women now that I'm older, and the women that I talk to are nearly all in their late 20's or 30's or even 40's. Older women can be very attractive, of course - and they ain't restrained by the bullshit of their youths. Of course men get much wiser, hopefully, in their 30's as well : -D
some do, when i was younger i have been asked out several times. Now that i am older I damm near have to beg for a date lol
It's because women are not as aggressive as they should be in all things, not only in asking out a guy for a date. That is the way women have been brought up so it has become a norm and women who have enough guts and self-confidence to ask the guy she likes for a date are usually thought to be liberated.
I think the fear of rejection is big on both sides. Women though like to play the role of the one, being asked out.
I remember a lot of rejection, for asking out guys more than women normally do. I didn't mind the rejection that much. I just looked for another target and crossed over when the timing was right. After a few more beers for instance.
To me, single life back then, was like hunting. That's why I can relate very well to the men's point of view in this. They shouldn't be the one to take the first step all the time.
I think its a gender role in society. Guys are supposed to be all manly and ask the girls out. Dunno why though. Plus girls like to be treated like queens, so the guy asking the girl is like showering her with praise...in some offhand way. lol!
It's on the culture. We are used to the environment where in guys need to do the first move because if otherwise, people will say that women are liberated.
Fear of rejection!
In their eyes they believe the person being asked has the "power". What they don't realize it's the "asker" who has the most power. He or she can move onto the next person and ask them out while other person has to "wait" to be approached again.
Basically there are two forms of rejection.
Direct rejection - Women use this one to turn down men who ask them out.
Indirect rejection - Men use this one by NOT asking a woman out.
Both can hurt just as much if you are interested in that (specific person).
"If it's not worth asking for then it's not worth having" - That goes for both sexes! The sooner you know where you stand with someone the better you can make use of your time.
One man's opinion! :-)
But i did.
Well, before all that.. It was because of pride and the fear of being rejected. Foremost is the age old belief of propriety. There you go..
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